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eTips: Daily Engagement Messages for September 2024
Reach out to the school counselor with questions or concerns
Whether your family is facing issues that affect your child or you have more typical learning or development questions, the school counselor is a valuable resource. Here are just a few of the issues you can talk about together: Concerns about schoolwork and school access. Worries about social or discipline issues. Your child's strengths, struggles or special needs. Thoughts about your student's education goals. Counselors even help elementary schoolers begin to think about career interests.
Families are valued partners in education
There is a mountain of evidence showing that family engagement makes a big difference in children's education. Your involvement can improve student achievement and attendance, and give your child a more positive attitude toward school. Plus, you'll get a better understanding of school programs and policies. Ask the teacher or principal how you can get involved.
Give your child the facts about tough topics
Experts say the best time to begin talking to kids about difficult issues is when they are between ages nine and 11. They're old enough to grasp the complexity of an issue but they're still young enough to listen. When you have conversations, find out what your child already knows. Share facts without exaggerating, and explain your position. Then, set an example by making sure your actions support your words.
Use a conversation game to find out about school
To encourage conversations about school, play a game called My Day, Your Day. In the evening, encourage your child to ask you a question about your day. After you answer, you get to ask a question about your child's day. This helps children feel involved, rather than interrogated. Ask questions that require more than a one-word answer. Specific questions, like "What did you do in math today?" are better than general ones like "How was your day?"
Turn family activities into bedtime stories
Have you run out of bedtime story ideas? Try giving your characters names that rhyme with family members' names. Then, have the characters relive family events or look forward to the next day's activities. This is also a good way to reinforce desired behavior: If your family is going on an outing the next day, the characters in a bedtime story could make their parents happy by getting ready on time without fighting.
Write your child a note to reinforce responsibilities
You've told your child over and over to clean up. But toys and dirty clothes still cover your child's bedroom floor. To avoid losing your cool in frustration, try leaving your child a note. You might write: "Your room needs to be picked up. Please put your clothes in the hamper. Put the toys on the shelf. Return dirty dishes to the kitchen. Thanks in advance." Kids love getting notes, and your child will have a checklist to follow.
Let your child know that science and math are for everyone
Research suggests that children's attitudes toward math and science tend to be set in elementary school, and their families' attitudes play a part in this. Support success in these subjects by expressing confidence in your child's abilities to master them. Point to diverse role models, and let your child know that math and science are for everyone, not just one kind of person.
Encourage creative writing, one sentence at a time
A little daily writing practice helps elementary schoolers build skills. To make it fun, provide a special notebook and ask your child to write down the first sentence of a made-up story. Then, each day, have your child add one sentence, and only one, to move the story along. It's helpful to set aside a regular time for this writing. Once a week, suggest adding an illustration. In time, your child will have written an imaginative and fun story.
Can your child collect all the letters on an alphabet hike?
Turn an ordinary walk into an alphabet hike and have some learning fun! Have your child write the alphabet on a piece of paper. Then, grab a grocery bag and set out together to find one item that starts with each letter. Pull up a Dandelion, pick up a Penny, dig for a Worm. When you get home, ask your child to arrange the items in alphabetical order.
Use words that encourage your child to keep on trying
Your child has been working to master a new skill. But schoolwork shows that your student still doesn't understand it. Your words can be motivating…or cause your child to give up. To encourage persistence, say, "You haven't quite mastered this yet." The word "yet" sends a signal that your child can get the answer if by continuing to try. Don't say, "You're still not getting it." Children are more likely to keep working when they believe they can succeed.
Be your child's study buddy
Being a study buddy when your child does schoolwork at home is an important way to support learning. Listen as your child reads aloud, and make sure your elementary schooler understands assignment instructions. Help your child organize information for a report or use flash cards to study for a test. And whenever possible, notice and praise your child's effort and progress.
Help your child turn history into today's news
History is much more than a collection of facts. It is the story of people and events. Here's an idea that can make history come alive: Using a phone, have your child create and record a "news broadcast" exactly as it might have happened in the historical period the class is studying. Your child can even stage "personal interviews" with historic figures or "eyewitnesses" to the event.
Talk with your child about the sounds that letters make
Strong language skills are an asset when it comes to learning to read. To develop your child's skills, point out the sounds that letters or groups of letters make, such as the "d" in the word "doll" or the "th" in words like "throw" and "through." Can your child think of other words with those sounds? Try rhyming, too. Pick out a word that your child has used, and ask, "What rhymes with that?" Then, take turns naming a rhyming word until you can't think of any more.
Breakfast is brain food
It takes a lot of energy for children to learn in school. To supply that energy, stock up on nutritious foods that are easy to fix and quick to eat. That way, your child can eat a healthy breakfast and still get to school on time. Choose easy-to-eat fresh fruit, like bananas. Hard boil and refrigerate some eggs in advance. Most kids can prepare toast with peanut butter. And if your child would rather have a slice of last night's chicken, that's OK, too.
Respect sets the stage for learning
Healthy respect for people is an important ingredient in a productive learning environment. Teach your child that common courtesies (like saying "thank you" and "excuse me") and being honest are important ways of showing respect. Listening to other people's views and accepting their differences is another. Model respectful behavior, and offer praise when you see your child being courteous and respectful.
Sketching teaches your child to take a closer look
Observation is an important skill in both art and science. To boost your child's powers of observation, plan a visit to a park, garden or anywhere you can find interesting plants. Give your child a sketch pad to take along. While observing the plants, have your elementary schooler choose an interesting one to draw. Later, you might visit a museum together to see the drawings of flowers and plants done by artists or scientists.
Students who miss school miss out on learning
The school is responsible for teaching your child. But your help is essential, especially when it comes to your child's attendance. Learning builds day by day. A child who misses a day of school also misses a day of learning, and it can be difficult to catch up. When you prioritize a habit of daily school attendance, you help your child see that education matters. And that sets your student up for success.
Take steps to help if your child struggles this year
Learning isn't always easy. If schoolwork is a struggle for your child this year, ask the teacher what help may be available from the school, and how you can help at home. Then, help your child set some realistic short-term goals to let your student experience success and build some confidence. Help your child stick to a study routine, and offer encouragement by sharing how you worked through struggles when you were young.
When you volunteer to help the school, amazing things happen
"Volunteers work for free, but not for nothing," say families who have given time to help the school. When you get involved, you'll not only learn what's going on, you'll develop your own skills. And you'll have more things to talk about with your child. What's more, it won't take long to see that your efforts make a difference not only for your child, but also for lots of other students.
Discuss polite ways to avoid being a pushover
It warms an adult's heart to see a child being kind and considerate. But children who always let others go first or have their way need to know that their feelings matter, too. Listen carefully as your child tells you about a situation. Then, brainstorm what your child could have done or said to politely assert feelings, opinions, wants and needs. Don't confuse your child by saying, "You're too nice" or "Why are you always giving in?"
Estimate the tasty way with popcorn
Popcorn is a delicious tool to use to build an important math skill: estimating. Here's how: Have your child estimate how many kernels of popped popcorn it will take to fill a glass. Then, get popping and have your child count to check the answer. Now, knowing that, how many popped kernels does your child think it will take to fill a small bowl? Fill the bowl, and count the pieces as your elementary schooler eats them. How close was your child's estimate?
Model the ways people show civic responsibility
Members of a democratic society have many rights...and many responsibilities. To foster civic responsibility, set an example. Attend a meeting of the PTA or school board with your child. Take part in community service projects as a family. Expect your child to help out at home. Help your elementary schooler see that when everyone contributes, everyone benefits.
Set up a convenient system for organizing school information
When school starts, information comes from all directions: newsletters, special notices, schedules, etc. To be able to find it when you need it, set up a filing system. You can get a three-ring binder and put the name of each of your kids on a divider. Then, put each paper behind the appropriate divider as it comes in. You can also put tabs on items for quick reference. Or, you can set up a folder on your computer with a subfolder for each child.
Nothing beats the power of reading aloud
What's one simple thing you can do to help your child do better in school? Read aloud every day. To make the most of read-aloud time, make it a priority. Plan for it, set aside time for it, and then just do it. Read books you and your child both enjoy. It's also fine to read some books that are a little too hard for your child to read alone. These books are great to introduce new vocabulary.
Offer reassurance to calm back-to-school nerves
Your child may be nervous about moving to a higher grade this year. Offer reassurance that your child is up to the challenge of the new work. Say that as long as your elementary schooler is learning and working hard, you will be satisfied. Remind your child to ask for help if something goes wrong or is confusing. If possible, encourage friendships by helping your child find an extracurricular activity with other kids who share interests.
Feed your child's body and brain at family meals
Sitting down to a family meal is more than a nice way to share an evening. Regularly eating meals with family helps your child build vocabulary and improve conversation skills. Your child also learns social skills, such as listening and sharing, that help children get along in school. And establishing healthy eating habits at home nourishes your child's body and brain for working and learning in class each day.
Help your child discover the library
Want to give your child a gift that will last a lifetime but doesn't cost a cent? Make sure every member of your family has a library card. September is Library Card Sign-Up Month. If you haven't visited your library lately, help your child discover its offerings this month. Find out how to take advantage of its collections and programs. Then, plan to visit the library and its website regularly with your child throughout the year.
Here's how to START the year off right
Along with new shoes and new pencils, your child may need some new school habits this year. To help your elementary schooler establish them, think of the letters in the word START: S stands for Set goals. T is for Talk about school every day. A is for Assert the importance of effort. R is for Remember to give your child some responsibilities at home. And T is for Take time for schoolwork or review each day.
Start a helpful conversation with your child's teacher
Communication and cooperation between families and schools is vital for student success. Making contact with your child's teachers early on sets the stage for positive teamwork the rest of the year. Share important information about your child and your family now, and learn about the teacher's priorities. Working together can help you both avoid misunderstandings and do your best for your child.
Talk with your child about what you expect
Expectations matter. When you make it clear that you expect your child to work hard in school, your child is more likely to do well. If you don't expect effort, your child may decide not to try. And if you make your elementary schooler feel like a poor student, that is what your child is likely to be. Expecting your child’s best effort, however, doesn’t mean expecting perfection. Even the best students make mistakes, and your child needs to know that is OK, and it's another way to learn.
eTips: Daily Engagement Messages for August 2024
Link consequences to the behavior that caused them
Sending children to their bedrooms when they misbehave makes sense, right? Maybe not. After all, what's so bad about hanging out in a bedroom for a while? Although simple penalties are OK at times, it's more effective to relate the consequence to the misbehavior. Try: “I was so worried about you when you were late that I didn’t finish my chores. You’ll have to stay in and help me finish them tomorrow.”
Involve your child's senses in learning math
https://tpitip.com/?14hd19134To sharpen your child's math skills, mix math into activities that use a variety of senses. For sight, you might ask your child to look at an analog clock and tell you the time. Then ask: "If Dad gets home at 6:30, how long will it be until we see him?" For hearing, read a recipe aloud and have your child follow its instructions. Cooking is a great way for students to practice fractions and understand concepts like quantity and volume. Then, taste and enjoy the results!
Three school supplies make all the difference
It's school supply season! But you won't find three key things your child needs for school in a store: concentration, organization and motivation. To support your child, set a regular study time when all family members read or do quiet work. Teach your student to use checklists to keep track of things that must be done. Most importantly, ask your child each day about what the class is learning, and respond with enthusiasm.
Instill the skills that help kids make and keep friends
Children with strong ties to school friends tend to feel more enthusiastic and confident about school. To boost friend-making skills, teach your child that good friends are kind. They also have varied interests that make them interesting to others. Encourage your child to be friendly and say "hi" first. Then, demonstrate how to be a good sport and how to stand up for what's right.
Show the way to avoid procrastination
Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today. If you do, your child may follow your lead and school performance could suffer. To discourage procrastination, show your child that you avoid delaying tasks. Let your elementary schooler see you prioritizing tasks and breaking big jobs into small parts. Explain that it's easier to tackle one small job at a time.
Prioritize attendance from day one
Your help in making sure your child attends school is so important. Children who don't attend school regularly fall behind and score lower on tests. They can have a hard time making and keeping friends. And frequent absences in elementary school can set a pattern that makes a child more likely to drop out of school later. Emphasize the importance of attendance with your child. Don't allow absences for reasons other than illness or emergency. And if your child regularly resists attending, talk to the teacher or school counselor.
To boost brainpower, help your child get moving
Exercise helps your child stay healthy and alert in school. It can even boost mood and memory. But gym class at school can't provide all the exercise your child needs. Children learn by example, so to make physical fitness a part of your child's life, make it part of yours. Suggest doing activities your child enjoys, such as bike riding or soccer, together. Instead of flopping down on the couch after dinner, play a game of tag or go for a family walk.
Labels help kids keep belongings straight
To help your child learn to keep track of personal belongings at school, have your student label everything. Your child's first and last name can be written on with marker, or you can provide a pre-printed rubber stamp and have your child stamp it on clothes, gloves, notebooks, etc. This helps avoid confusion, and makes it more likely that items that go to school in the morning come home in the afternoon.
What would your child like the teacher to know?
Even children who are excited about the first day of school can be worried about it, too. One common worry is, "Will my teacher like me?" Ease these fears by writing a note introducing your child to the teacher. You can include all the things your child wants the teacher to know, like "Casey can count to 100." Read the note aloud to your child. Then, send it school to open the door to productive communication with the teacher.
Encourage writing with fun activities
Encourage your child to write with activities that make writing fun. You might make a family cookbook and let your child name the recipes and write stories about times your family ate a particular dish. Or encourage your student to keep a journal of funny ideas, jokes and events. You can suggest making a photo album together and have your child write the captions. Or, each of you write down and share your dreams for your child's future.
Respectful behavior has not gone out of style
Respectful behavior improves interactions with others. Children who are disrespectful in school can make it hard for everyone to learn. Help your child think about how it feels to be disrespected, and why it's important to avoid doing that to others. Then, have your elementary schooler practice polite ways to express feeling upset or angry. To improve interactions with friends, teach your child to wait for a turn to speak or act, and to share and be honest.
"Many hands make light work." When everyone in the family is expected to help get household tasks and projects done, your child learns cooperation as well as practical skills. Here are some chore guidelines: Make everyone's assignments clear. Keep in mind that boys and girls can learn to do the same tasks, and make yours an equal opportunity household. When your child has finished a task, don't redo it. This can make kids feel incapable. Instead, give pointers for improving next time.
Demonstrate respectful relationships for your child
Children tune in to just about everything the adults in their families say and do. If the adults are disrespectful to each other, children conclude that this behavior is OK for them, too. Let your child see that you are willing to talk and solve problems politely. When you behave respectfully and cooperatively, your child will learn to do the same.
Experiment with science at home
The kitchen is a great place for science experiments. Here are two activities to try with your child: 1. Mix oil and water and watch as they separate. 2. Gently drop an egg into a jar of water. It sinks. Next, slowly add salt to the water. The egg floats! After observing the experiments, ask why your child thinks you got the results you did. Talk about ways to find answers, such as looking online.
Show that education matters at home
To show how important your child's education is to you, reinforce the idea that you and the teachers are on the same team: your child's. Explain that the things your elementary schooler learns at school matter at home, too. Then, make school attendance a top priority. Expect your child to complete assignments, and set aside at least 20 minutes a day for the whole family to pursue pleasure reading.
Are you an 'askable' adult?
Children are full of questions…and they will look for answers to all of them. Being an "askable" adult helps ensure that you will be your child's primary source for information and values. Tell your child you welcome questions and want to answer them. Don't avoid sensitive or embarrassing topics. Treat them seriously, and respond with words and actions that say, "I'm so glad you asked!"
Help your child relate to history with a time line
Many elementary schoolers think that George Washington, Abraham Lincoln and Cleopatra all lived in the same time period: the olden days before the children were born! To help your child get a better grasp of history, create a time line together. Unroll some shelf paper. Write important dates from your child's life at the right end (modern history). Then help your child add historical dates in the appropriate places to the left.
Create a student-friendly home
One of the most effective ways to support learning is also one of the easiest: Make your home student-friendly. Start by encouraging your child to make organization a priority. Show that you care about what your elementary schooler is learning by establishing a regular study routine. Model a relaxed attitude about the return to school, and reach out to the teacher if your child is struggling.
Ask specific questions about school
Talking about school is an important way to show your child that education matters. But if your child's usual answer to "How was school today?" is "Fine" or a grunt, get more specific. Ask your elementary schooler to tell you about something good that happened. Ask about how your child handled a challenge. Find out what your student is reading in class. Ask about classmates. Share something about your own day, too.
Buckle up for better conversation
Car time is perfect for talking one-on-one with your child. It's often more private, and no one can get up and leave. And when kids know parents will be looking at the road and not at them, they often share worries, fears, secrets and dreams. To turn car time into conversation time, ask your child, "What have you been thinking about lately?" Listen and make it clear you care what your child thinks.
Start a reading chain reaction
Reading regularly over the summer is an important way for your child to keep reading skills from sliding. To motivate frequent reading, try this fun way of keeping track of every book your child finishes. Write the titles of the books on small strips of paper. Have your child make the strips into a paper chain. Set a goal to have the chain stretch around your child's room by the start of school in the fall!
Help your beginning reader have fun with letters
Hands-on activities let children use more than one sense to learn. To help your early reader learn letters, get out some pipe cleaners and bend them into letter shapes together. You can also make letter puzzles out of index cards. Write the capital and lowercase versions of a letter on a card. Repeat for several letters. Cut the cards in half in a curvy pattern, mix them up, and let your child match each capital letter with its lowercase mate.
Reduce the effects of violent screen content
Short of pulling the plug on TV and other media, what can you do to reduce the impact of on-screen violence on your child? Start by setting limits on screen activities. Help your child choose what to watch or play in advance. That helps avoid exposure to "whatever's on." Then, get in the habit of interacting together when your child watches or plays on screen devices. Talk about what's real and what isn't.
Create a box full of reading accomplishments
If your child is just beginning to learn to read, every new word is an accomplishment. Creating an I-Can-Read-It Box can motivate your child to keep going. Here's how it works: Ask your child to choose a familiar word to read. Write the word on an index card, have your child read it and then store the card in a file box. Each day, add a new word. Soon the box will be filled with words your child can read. Review five or six words together each day.
Promote teamwork and responsibility with a chore or two
Not so long ago, it took the work of every family member, from child to grandparent, just to keep the family fed. Today, there are other important reasons why children should share the family workload. Teachers say that doing chores helps kids learn responsibility. And kids who are responsible at home are better able to take charge of their own learning at school.
Use positive phrases to motivate
The language you use affects your child's motivation to try, experiment, learn and succeed. Make a list of the negative phrases your family uses. Try to think of positive replacements. Instead of "That won't work," consider saying, "Let's try it." Replace "You can't do that by yourself" with "I can help you." If a family member slips and uses a negative phrase, offer a positive alternative.
Encourage activities that let your child practice paying attention
As children go through elementary school, their brains continue to develop. That means that with practice, your child's attention span can grow. One way you can help is by reading aloud together every day. It also helps to have your child play games or work on projects that require sitting still and listening carefully. You can also have your child describe an event, such as a trip to the park, in as much detail as possible.
Play a game to improve math memory
Here's a fun math game to try with your child. Write a different math problem (such as 4 x 2) on each of five or more cards. Write the answers on other cards. Shuffle and place the cards face down in rows. Take turns turning over two at a time. If they match (problem and correct answer), keep the cards. If they don't, return them face down. The player with the most matching pairs wins.
Help your child plan ahead with a calendar
To help your child learn to use time wisely, get or make a large calendar with plenty of room to write on each day. Have your child make note of upcoming activities, such as the start of school and a visit to the dentist. When school begins, have your elementary schooler add test days and due dates, especially for long-term projects. Encourage your child to check the calendar each day. This helps students see how much time is available to get things done.
Active listening helps your child make better choices
When your child has to make a big decision, it may be tempting to just take over and make it. But there are a few things you should do first: Listen as your child describes the dilemma. Rephrase what you hear to confirm your understanding. Next, ask thought-provoking questions: "If you don't go to practice, how would your teammates feel?" Then, be patient. Your child may come to the right conclusion independently and will gain useful problem-solving skills.
Make new beginnings a family tradition
Children love traditions. In fact, some experts believe that traditions are one thing that holds a family together. One fun tradition you might begin at your house is to celebrate new beginnings on the first day of each new month. Get your child involved in planning a special dinner that you serve only on this day. (Make it fun: Wear party hats and serve cake!)
eTips: Daily Engagement Messages for July 2024
Include writing in your regular summer routine
It takes practice to write well. Consider establishing a writing "ritual" for your family. Pick a special time period, such as the duration of summer vacation. Get everyone a notebook (a thin one won't overwhelm your child). Choose a regular time of day you'll all write, and stick with it. To get started, let your child pick a family photo or other picture to write a story about.
Show your child that the dictionary is interesting reading
One way to support vocabulary growth is by encouraging your child to browse in the dictionary. Get a children's dictionary with lots of pictures. Leaf through it together and look for new and interesting words. Read the definitions. Talk about the pictures. Ask what your child thinks a new word might mean. Does your student know any similar words?
Point out the useful ways you read
Children learn by watching the adults around them. And when you talk about what you are doing, you make it easier for your child to learn from you. If you are cooking, for example, you might say, "I'm looking for a cake recipe. I don't have time to read all the recipes in this cookbook, so I'm going to turn to the index in the back. Here under the letter C is a recipe for chocolate cake." Now your child understands more about how an index works.
Balance negativity by pointing out the positive
Is your child a "glass half-empty" kind of kid? Some people are more pessimistic than others by nature. But that doesn't mean you can't help your child recognize the sunnier side of life. Remind your elementary schooler of past good times and successes. And if you hear "I'll never understand this!" sit down and offer support as your child figures it out. Show that your child can solve "impossible" problems by continuing to try.
Commercials are prime time for conversation
Don't let screen media shut down family conversations. Instead, use it to start them. "Half-hour" TV shows are typically 22 minutes of program and eight minutes of commercials. Use those eight minutes to ask your child to think critically about the program. Does your child think the characters and settings are realistic, or not? Does the plot make sense? What other choices could the characters have made?
Promote a healthy body image
Some self-criticism is normal, but kids who obsess about their weight or their looks may be on the road to trouble that can affect their health and their schoolwork. To set a healthy example, avoid criticizing your body or anyone else's. Teach your child to make nutritious food choices, but don't allow dieting without a doctor's approval. Then, promote wellness by making fitness into fun for the whole family. Hike, ride bikes or play sports together.
Go hunting for treasures at a museum
Are you planning a family museum visit? To keep your child interested and sharpen observation skills, describe a detail of an artifact or painting and ask your child to find it. Or, ask your elementary schooler to find a work of art with favorite colors, shapes or objects in it. You might also ask your child to find things that are very old, new, strong, shiny or rough. Your child will enjoy the search and take a closer look at the collection.
Steer your child clear of problem-solving pitfalls
Learning how to solve problems is as important in life as it is in the classroom. But learning how NOT to solve them is also critical. Teach your child not to deny or ignore problems (they often get worse!). Getting mad won't help either, and the sooner your child gets over being angry about a problem, the more time there is to solve it. Tell your child not to worry too much about making a mistake, either. Success is often built on them.
Choose learning activities that interest your child
One way to encourage reading, writing and learning over the summer is to make those things part of activities that are meaningful to your child. Let your elementary schooler pick a book for you to take turns reading to each other. If your child likes contests, post a "word of the week" and see who can use it correctly in a sentence most often. Or, ask your child to plan a family event, including the budget and the menu. Then, carry out the plan!
Take your child on a learning safari
Visiting a zoo or nature center is a fun way to excite your child about learning. Bring along some paper and pencils and have family members draw an animal that interests them. Later, visit the library and help your child check out books on the animals you all drew, and a book that can help identify wildlife in your area.
Are your priorities on your schedule?
It sounds odd, but it's true: It takes time to find time. Spend some time reviewing your family's schedule. Does it reflect your priorities? If family comes first, for example, are you spending more time with family than anywhere else? Can you cut back on activities that interfere with your goals? This can be a challenge, but remember that kids would rather have time with their parents than material things.
New experiences build reading skills
Reading involves more than sounding out words. Children use their prior knowledge and experiences to understand what they read. A sentence such as "Sam touched a prickly cactus," will mean much more to a child who has seen and felt a cactus. Fill your child's life with new experiences, and introduce the words for things you see together. The more vocabulary and concepts your child experiences, the more knowledge your child can apply to understanding reading.
Add an element of fun to chore time
Doing chores at home reinforces your child's sense of responsibility, and that will pay off in school. But nothing says that chores can't be fun! Try writing all the chores that need to be done during chore time on slips of paper and putting them in a jar. Then, add several fun ones, such as "Kiss Mom on her elbow," or "Eat a cookie." Take turns drawing slips and doing the tasks. You'll all have fun pitching in.
To encourage creative thinking, just look up
Relax with your child and encourage creative thinking at the same time by considering the clouds. Sit together outside or by a window. Take turns using your imaginations to describe what the clouds look like to you. A llama? A pair of pants? Great Aunt Martha? No idea is too silly.
Acting helps your child remember reading
Teachers often follow up a story with a fun activity to help children remember what they've read. You can do the same thing at home. After you finish reading a story, act it out with your child. Duplicate the order in which the events occurred, the characters' names and other details so that your child will remember the book correctly.
Your child's success in school starts with you
Your actions are more important to your child's success in school than your income or your education. To help your child achieve, talk often and openly together. Listen and help your child solve problems. Explain, then set an example of the values and behavior you want your child to show. When school resumes, stay aware of your student's progress. And seek out community resources and assistance if needed.
Review the moves for making friends
Making new friends isn't always easy, and many children need some help with this. Remind your child that when looking for friends, it often helps to make the first move. Encourage your elementary schooler to say "hi" and show an interest in other people. Your child might ask someone to play a game or eat together. Suggest sharing stories about personal experiences so the person can get to know your child better. Friendship skills matter because having friends at school can boost your child's enthusiasm for education.
Challenge your child to some grocery games
The next time you go food shopping with your child, play some grocery games. Ask a young child to name things that are round or red or square. Challenge an older child to grocery math: If one can costs 64 cents, how much will two cans cost? How much change will be left from two dollars? Offer a reward by letting your "contestant" choose a favorite fruit to add to your shopping cart.
Send a positive message for the day
Each morning before breakfast, put a note at your child's place at the table. In it, you can compliment your child on a job well done or express confidence in your child's ability to handle a challenge. A note could remind your child about plans for the afternoon or even refer to a current event. Write in colored markers on bright paper for eye appeal. Then, encourage your child to write back!
Reduce the volume with a whisper
Did you ever try to yell louder than a room full of active kids? Odds are, you can't! Instead, when your children's noise level rises too high, speak softly or even whisper. Since no one likes to miss a secret, children will usually quiet down to hear what you have to say. And you'll be showing your kids another way to control their own behavior.
Use songs to spark interest in geography
Many great songs mention specific places. When you sing a song like "This Land Is Your Land" or "Take Me Home, Country Roads" with your child, talk about the places in it. Look them up on a map. Other songs feature landmarks. "London Bridge" was a real bridge in London which was later sold and moved. Help your child research where it is now (Arizona). Pass time on your next drive by singing as many geography songs as you can.
Surround your child with the sounds of another language
The two best ways to learn a foreign language are to speak it and hear it spoken. If your child is learning a foreign language, check out audiobooks in the language from the library and play them at home. Look for a TV channel in that language, or search online for videos and watch together for a few minutes a day. To encourage speaking the language, ask your child to teach you a new word or two every day.
Connect consequences to actions, naturally and logically
In order to take responsibility for their actions, children must learn that actions have consequences. Sometimes the consequences are natural; for example, the consequence of not studying is failing a test. At other times, families must impose a consequence that connects logically to the action, like requiring a child to do chores to earn money to help replace a lost library book. Experiencing consequences helps your child learn to make better choices in the future.
There's a lot for your child to read in the kitchen
Use the contents of your kitchen cabinets to help build your child's reading skills. Ask your child to look for letters of the alphabet or words on boxes or cans of food. For example, as your child is spreading jam, ask, "Can you show me five A's on the jar?" Start with capital letters then move to lowercase letters and then words. How many cans in your cupboard contain items beginning with B?
Teach your child this process for making wise decisions
Whether your child is deciding which shirt to wear or whether or not to go along with the crowd, four steps will lead to wise choices. Have your child: 1. Stop and name the decision to be made. 2. Identify all the possible options. Sometimes kids think there are only two choices when there are many more. 3. Consider the consequences of each option. 4. Take your family's values into consideration.
Positive expectations provide motivation
The truth is, children usually do what their families expect of them. That's why having high expectations for your child is so important. Research shows that families' high expectations can motivate students to do well in school. On the other hand, when families say things like "You'll never amount to anything," the children are likely to do that, too. Make it clear you are counting on seeing your child's best effort to learn, think, behave and be kind.
Start preventing substance abuse today
Families of elementary schoolers sometimes think they don't have to worry yet about preventing drug and alcohol abuse. But actions you can take now will help protect your child. Discuss the dangers of drugs and alcohol, and establish firm family rules about their use. Help your child set and work toward personal goals and feel confident about learning and proud of progress. And always know where your child is and with whom.
Showcase your child's skill at a family gathering
Every child needs to feel capable and appreciated. Family gatherings on holidays such as the 4th of July are great occasions to boost your child's sense of accomplishment. If your elementary schooler is learning to cook, serve a dish you have made together. If your child is learning to read, make some time for reading to a family member. Asking your child to demonstrate a new skill shows that you value what your child is learning.
Pack some learning into travel planning
Do your family's summer plans include travel? Add some learning by including your elementary schooler in the planning. You can ask your student to research things you might see on your trip. Or, give your child a map and a highlighter to mark the route you travel each day. Keep math facts fresh by having your child calculate the distance in miles. Then, let your child choose an audiobook that your family can listen to in the car.
A secret code can pique your child's interest in reading
Give your child the key to this secret code and get set for a summer of secret message fun. Assign each letter of the alphabet a consecutive number. A is 1, B is 2, C is 3 and so on. Then, write a message in number code and ask your child to respond. What will your elementary schooler say about this idea? Probably something like "20-8-9-19 9-19 6-21-14! (This is fun!)"
Stretch your child's grasp of math with a geoboard
Geoboards can help kids learn basic geometry. You can download a geoboard app for your child, or make a simple geoboard at home. On a 12-inch square piece of wood, hammer 10 rows of 10 nails one inch apart (use graph paper as a guide). Next, put out a variety of rubber bands in different sizes. Now, have your child stretch them around the nails to answer questions, such as: Can you make a triangle? How many triangles can you make? What is the largest square you can make?
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Remember the funny side of discipline
Discipline is serious business, but that doesn't mean you can't have a sense of humor about it. Humor can diffuse a tense situation, motivate children to act appropriately, and even help them see the error of their ways. For example, instead of sending your foot-stamping, cookie-demanding first grader to time-out, join the protest. Stamp and demand every sweet possible. Your child may be too distracted to keep up a tantrum.
Put your child's personality on a poster
Creating an "all about me" poster together is a great way to celebrate what makes your child special. It's also a fun way to learn more about your elementary schooler. Look through magazines and catalogs together for pictures of activities your family has done. Also look for images of things your child likes, like pets, foods and clothes. Have your child arrange and paste the pictures on a large sheet of paper. Then, encourage your student to write a few words about each.
Look for opportunities to encourage conversation
Meaningful conversations with your child are hard to schedule; they happen when they happen. But there are things you can do to encourage them. Many children prefer to talk while they are doing other things. Find the time when your child is most likely to open up: while walking the dog, for example. Use this time for conversation. To keep it going, ask your child follow-up questions, like "What happened next?"
Inspire your child with real-life superheroes
Being a positive role model for your elementary schooler is important. But don't stop there. Create a gallery of heroes for your child. Find pictures and stories of real people who have overcome great odds, starting with people in your family. Did someone persist in the face of obstacles, or give up a lot so you could get an education? Talk with your child about these heroes and what you both can learn from their example.
Make learning part of the fun this summer
To combine learning and fun this summer, try having a family spelling bee (give each family member words that are appropriate for their skills). Or, add math to a family outing (How many miles until we get there? How much gas will we need? How many steps to climb the hill?). Ask questions about things you see in nature and try to find the answers together. You can also tell family stories that connect history to your child's life.
You don't have to give your child everything
Families who give their children everything they ask for often create unintended problems. Their children eventually feel entitled. In school, they may feel they "deserve" top grades without putting in the work. Offer your child unlimited love, but not unlimited gifts. Insist that your student live up to responsibilities at home and at school, and put in effort. You'll be teaching your child to thrive and succeed.
Turn unfortunate viewing into a positive lesson
It happens. Despite your best efforts to avoid it, your child watches a show that uses rudeness and bad behavior as humor. To redeem the situation, turn it into a learning opportunity. Point out the objectionable scene. "That boy sure made a rude remark to his mother." Ask how your child would handle it differently. "If you were as angry as he was, how could you express your feelings without being rude or hurtful?"
Hang a brag line to celebrate and motivate
Showing that you are proud of your child's hard work is an effective way to encourage your student to keep it up. One way to do this is by displaying your child's best writing, most-improved schoolwork and most creative art on a "brag line." String a long piece of yarn up against a wall from one end of the room to the other. Attach your child's work with clothespins or tape and start bragging!
Promote learning on local field trips
You don't have to travel far to find interesting places where your child can learn. Check out a local shopping center, and have your child calculate the percentage of stores that sell food. At a garden center, learn about different varieties of evergreen trees. Or, pick up the nutrition information brochure from a fast-food restaurant, and use it to teach your child to make healthy food choices.
Help your child be an active reader
To develop a love of reading, help your child get actively involved with the reading material. One way is to ask why your child thinks the characters act the way they do. Why would a spider like Charlotte want to help a pig like Wilbur? You can also ask about how a book is or isn't like your child's own life. Has your elementary schooler ever felt like one of the characters does? Would your child handle a situation differently?
Experiment with the concept of floating
Try an experiment at home to help your child understand why a large boat can float. Cut two pieces of aluminum foil the same size. Squeeze one into a dense little ball. Help your child shape the other piece into a small boat. Put them both in water. What happens? Explain that the ball sinks because it is denser than the amount of water it moves aside. The boat shape, filled with air, is less dense than the water it displaces, so it floats!
Improve word skills with dictionary brainteasers
Here's a fun word game that will build your child's dictionary skills. Get out a dictionary (or help your child use one online). Then, challenge your child to use it to answer these questions: Do anvils come in vanilla? Can you bustle, hustle and jostle at the same time? How much bread is in a breadfruit? Can you abandon an abalone? Now it's your child's turn to use the dictionary to think up some questions for you!
Encourage your child to appreciate others
Children are naturally self-centered. But their families can help them learn to cooperate and work with others. The first step is to help your child appreciate other people. Encourage your student to compliment at least one person every day. Suggest being on the lookout for good things friends, relatives and classmates do. Then your child's praise will be genuine. Do this yourself, too. Each day, talk together about the compliments you gave.
Love and respect support student success
The ways parents behave with their children make a big difference in how the children feel about themselves. Say "I love you" directly and often to your child. Also, always treat your child with the same courtesy you would like your child to show to you and others. Above all, listen when your child talks about personal interests. You'll show that what your child says matters to you.
Help your child find out about careers of interest
Elementary school is not too early for children to begin learning about careers. To help your child explore the possibilities, ask questions that encourage thinking and dreaming about the future. What kind of a life would your child like to have? What kinds of activities does your child like in school that might be fun to do on the job? Also, discuss the jobs held by people your family knows. If something seems interesting, see if your child can talk to that person about their work.
Send your child on a reading scavenger hunt
Encourage reading by challenging your child to a scavenger hunt in your own living room. Set your child up with a newspaper (in print or online), and a list of things to find things in it. These might include: A picture of a person running for office. The time a movie will show at a nearby theater. A map of your state. The score of a baseball game. The name of a store having a sale. The price of sugar at your local market.
Show your child the science in your home
Your home is a wonderful science lab for your child. To promote scientific thinking, use a magnifying glass to view household items. What looks different and what looks similar with and without the glass? You can also ask questions and help your child look for answers: Which cereals get soggy in milk? You can even conduct some experiments: Will bread get moldy faster in a baggie in the refrigerator or in a baggie on the counter?
Chores are rewarding, but should they be rewarded?
Chores at home teach children many things that can help them in school, from time management to responsibility. But should you pay your child for doing chores? For everyday tasks, probably not. Kids should make their own contributions to keeping the family and home running smoothly. For big or extra jobs, consider assigning points that your child can accumulate and cash in for rewards.
Give your child reasons to be optimistic
Research shows that there are benefits to optimism, including better school performance. To help your child see that life isn’t all bad, solve problems together. If your child is worried about doing poorly in a subject, for example, help brainstorm actions your child can take to improve. If you hear "I messed up. I can't do this," foster an attitude adjustment by having your child say "I made a mistake. I can learn from it."
Fill the day with pattern play
Pattern recognition is an important math skill. Try some of these activities to help your child practice it: See how many patterns you can create together using only knives, forks and spoons. Or, help your child learn about the phases of the moon. How long does each phase last, and how long it is from full moon to full moon? Or, take a family nature walk. Collect leaves, rocks and other natural items to use to make patterns.
Make a game of following directions
Here's a game to play that builds your child's ability to follow directions: Hide a small prize, such as a coin. Then, tell your child all the directions necessary to find it. Before hunting, have your child repeat the directions, then picture following each step. Start by giving only two or three directions. Increase the complexity of the directions as your child improves.
Perseverance is hard work. But your child's effort to develop the habit now will help in school. Teach your elementary schooler that "You're never a failure until you give up." Talk about a time when you wanted to give up, but didn't, and overcame an obstacle. Then, have some fun: Set out a jigsaw puzzle to do together, and don't quit until the last piece is in!
Sometimes conversations with children can be frustrating. "What did you do in class today?" you ask. "Nothing," your child replies. Don't give up! Try asking more specific questions, such as "What was the best part of your day?" or "What are you learning about in science?" Sometimes it works just to say, "What do you want to talk about?" You might be surprised by your child's answer!
It's great to have high expectations for your child. But it’s also important that your expectations be realistic. When setting expectations, consider questions such as: Why do I have this expectation? Where did it come from? What purpose does it serve? Is it based on my child's needs, or mine? Is it appropriate for a child this age? Consult with the teacher if you are in doubt. Then, cheer your child on!
It's important that students learn to take responsibility for their own schoolwork. When they do, they learn not only the subject matter, but also important life lessons such as initiative, time management and perseverance. Let your child learn these lessons from experience. Don't take over the responsibility for your child’s assignments. Your elementary schooler may make a few mistakes, but those teach lessons, too.
Word games are a great way to pass time and build children's thinking and reading skills in the car. And you don't need any supplies! Ask your child to spot objects that begin with each letter of the alphabet, in order. Or, take turns naming a word that begins with the last sound of the previous word (cat-toy-oyster). You can also start with a short word and take turns changing one letter to make a new word (cat-bat-bad-bed).
Something that is "quality" has value. But it isn't necessarily rare. Quality time, for example, just means putting extra effort into the time you have with your child. To make quality time an everyday event, offer your child your undivided attention frequently, even if just for a minute or two. Include your child in your household tasks. And allow time every day for fun, laughter and enjoying each other.
Learning to manage money gives your child math practice and a lesson in financial responsibility. Help your student learn to keep a record of money received and spent. Also, when you pay bills, talk with your child about your family's priorities, and how they are reflected in your finances. Ask your elementary schooler to suggest future priorities and ways your family could save for them.
When your child outgrows some clothing, it needs to be replaced. Children can also outgrow the limits families set for them. That's why it's important to check regularly to see whether your rules still "fit." Remember that if you relax a boundary and your child doesn't respond well, you can always return to the way things were and try again in a few months.
It takes only seconds to give a compliment, while a complaint often takes a minute or more. To encourage good behavior and build your child's confidence, flip the balance and spend more time on compliments than complaints. Say what you don't like about your child's actions quickly. When you see positive behavior, offer plenty of specific praise. You'll spend less time on discipline and more on motivating your child.
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Friday, May 31, 2024
Have you seen these signs of reading struggle?
When children encounter unfamiliar words while reading, many squirm, get sleepy, look anxious or act up. If you see any of these signs, ask if there's a word your child doesn't understand. Help your child look it up in the dictionary. Then, check for understanding by asking your elementary schooler to use the word in a sentence. If your child claims to know all the words, do some spot checks. Ask, "What does this word mean?"
Thursday, May 30, 2024
Help your child learn a lot in a few minutes
What can you do promote learning in a few spare minutes? Teachers recommend several things: Teach values by reading a story that has moral dilemmas and discuss why actions are right or wrong. Or, you could tell your child a story filled with information about the real world. Another option is to ask to hear about something your child finds interesting and look for ways to relate the topic to things your child is learning.
Wednesday, May 29, 2024
Be a model of patience for your child
Children aren't born with a lot of patience and self-control. They need to learn these qualities. But if you are always fussing about slow drivers or saying "Hurry up!" to your child, it will be hard for your child to learn patience from you. Model the behavior you want your elementary schooler to show. Remember, your child may try your patience, but losing your cool only teaches impatience.
Tuesday, May 28, 2024
Help your child feel accepted, confident and purposeful
Feeling confident and capable helps children cope with challenges. To nurture this kind of self-esteem in your child, say "I love you" all the time, not just when your student is successful. Emphasize your child's strengths and point out progress. Instill a sense of purpose by helping your child set attainable goals. Then, help your child see that difficulties can be overcome. Say often that you believe in your child's ability to succeed.
Monday, May 27, 2024
Help your child put gratitude in writing
Thank-you notes are more than just good writing practice. Expressing gratitude can also boost your child's spirits and appreciation for other people. Set an example for your child. When you thank someone, talk about how good gratitude feels. Then, help your child brainstorm reasons to thank people. Your student could write notes to thank a teacher for help, or to a classmate for being a good friend.
Sunday, May 26, 2024
Plan to give summer days some structure
Kids love to relax in the summer. But they still need some structure to their day. Otherwise, they may spend hour after hour passively watching screens and never get around to activities that help them learn. Draw up a basic summer schedule for your child. Include large blocks of time for creative play. Build in time for reading and chores. And although you may relax rules on bedtime, don't give them up altogether.
Saturday, May 25, 2024
Correct behavior in a loving way
How you say things to your child is just as important as what you say. Children thrive on their families' positive attitudes toward them. So, the next time you have to correct your child's behavior, take a minute to think before you talk. Phrase your comment in a way that makes it clear you think your child is great, but that the rules still apply.
Friday, May 24, 2024
Encourage your child to wonder and observe
Children are natural scientists. Every time they ask "Why?" or wonder how things work, they're asking a scientific question. Encourage your child to observe, ask questions and look for answers. Together, you could see how long it takes for a rosebud to burst into bloom. Or, record the changes in the moon's shape over a month's time. Can your child figure out how the spin cycle removes wash water from your clothes?
Thursday, May 23, 2024
Create a space that makes your child want to read
Children get more excited about reading when they have their own books and a special place to read them. Help your child create a personal book nook by providing a bookcase, or a shelf of your child’s own in a family bookcase. Put pillows or a comfortable chair in a cozy corner nearby. One inexpensive way to provide reading material is to make scrapbooks of articles on topics that interest your child. Encourage your elementary schooler to sort and arrange books in the book nook.
Wednesday, May 22, 2024
Children usually live up to families' expectations
Families communicate expectations to children in many ways: by what they say, how they act and how they react to others. Think about what you expect of your child in terms of effort on schoolwork, time spent reading, behavior in class, and how far your student should go in school. Set your expectations high, and express them to your child clearly and consistently.
Tuesday, May 21, 2024
Apply the lessons of music to schoolwork
Kids who study a musical instrument learn more than how to play a tune. They also learn lessons like the value of practice and persistence. No one is born knowing how to play an instrument. But by sticking with it and practicing regularly, kids soon make music. This experience carries over to other subjects. Students who work hard and study every day can master material. And that makes teachers and families sing!
Monday, May 20, 2024
Change the course of repetitive play
Many adults have a common complaint: "My child always wants to play the same thing!" To introduce new elements into pretend play, change the story. For example, if your child always buys cereal when playing store, introduce a challenge. Say, "Sorry, all out of cereal." If your child needs help solving the problem, offer two suggestions to choose from, "How about bagels or muffins instead?"
Sunday, May 19, 2024
What says 'love' to your child?
Parents and caregivers have innumerable ways of showing children they love them. But those ways are generally ones the adults think are important to their kids. To find out what your child really treasures, ask: "How did I show you I love you today?" You might be surprised at the answers!
Saturday, May 18, 2024
Role-play ways to push back against peer pressure
Kids need to fit in. But they also need to know that there are times when they can't go along with the crowd. With your child, role-play ways to say "no" to things that are unsafe, illegal or against your family’s rules. These include making an excuse, "I can't. My mom needs me at home" and offering a better idea, "Why don't we ride bikes instead?" Your child could even blame you. "My folks would ground me forever!"
Friday, May 17, 2024
Build priceless skills with a word-value game
Here's a fun game that uses language and math skills. Assign each letter of the alphabet a monetary value: A is one cent, B is two cents, etc. Next, ask your child to figure out the value of each family member's name. Whose name is worth the most? Have fun figuring out the values of other words, too. Which is worth more, gold or silver? What is the shortest word your child can think of that is worth the most?
Thursday, May 16, 2024
Discuss things that are going right
One way to help children become more self-assured is to shift attention from their shortcomings to their strengths. To direct your child's focus to things that are going well, ask questions such as, "What is something you like about yourself?" "What is something you did that you felt good about today?" "What is something that you enjoyed learning today?"
Wednesday, May 15, 2024
Help your child see things from a different angle
Elementary schoolers are learning to analyze and see things from different points of view. To reinforce this skill, ask your child questions, such as: "What do you think land looks like to a dolphin in the water? How about to a bird flying in the air?" Recognizing that there can be more than one way to look at something is an essential reading and writing skill.
Tuesday, May 14, 2024
Avoid arguments that aren't worth it
Every day, adults and children have many differences of opinion, some big, some small. Children are more likely to listen to you when it counts if they aren’t constantly being corrected over tiny matters. To avoid overcorrecting, take a few minutes at the end of a typical day to recall the disagreements you had with your child. Decide which were worth the fight, such as enforcing safety rules, and which you can ignore if they crop up again.
Monday, May 13, 2024
Play a game that is the opposite of boring
"Simon Says" is a great game for teaching children to follow directions. Here's a twist that will help build your child's vocabulary and thinking skills, too: Players should do the opposite of what Simon says. When Simon says, "Whisper your mother's name," for example, your child should shout the name. Grasping the concept of opposite helps children understand antonyms (words that have opposite meanings).
Sunday, May 12, 2024
Kids who miss class are missing out
At the end of the year, it may be tempting to let your child miss school for other activities for a few days. But kids who miss class miss learning, and repeated absences can lead to problems later on. One research study found that sixth graders who missed about one day of school a week had a 75 percent chance of never making it to graduation. Help your child learn that attendance matters by making it a priority.
Saturday, May 11, 2024
Leave some decisions up to your child
To learn how to make responsible decisions about important things, your child needs to practice making choices about everyday things. You might let a young child choose between wearing blue jeans or athletic pants. Let an older child choose which vegetable the family will eat for dinner. Before you make a decision for your child, consider whether your child could safely make that decision independently. If so, say, "You decide."
Friday, May 10, 2024
Help make study conditions match testing conditions
Does your child have a big test coming up? To boost recall, help your child match study conditions to the testing conditions. Chances are, there won't be music playing or a TV on during the test. So don't allow your child to study with them on, either. If your student will be taking the test at a desk, encourage studying at a desk or table instead of on a bed. If the test will be timed, have your child try setting a kitchen timer while taking a practice test.
Thursday, May 09, 2024
There are lots of 'right' books for your child
What makes a book "right" for your child? It should be well-written and designed. Most importantly, it needs to appeal to your elementary schooler. When choosing books, look for well-developed characters and strong plots on topics of interest. While most of the words should be familiar, it's OK to pick a book that is a little beyond your child's ability. You can read it aloud now, and your child can read it alone later.
Wednesday, May 08, 2024
Talk with your child about living up to promises
Responsible students can be counted on by their families, teachers and classmates. But promises are often easier for children to make than to keep. Talk to your child about the importance of being trustworthy. Ask your child to think about what happens when people don't do things they've said they would: Plants that don't get watered wilt, garbage that isn't taken out smells and animals who don't get fed get hungry!
Tuesday, May 07, 2024
Ask the teacher about progress, problems and preparing for the future
As this school year comes to a close, you may be wondering about your child's readiness for next year. Consider scheduling an end-of-the-year parent-teacher conference. You can ask the teacher whether your child has made the progress expected, and about strengths and weaknesses. Ask how you can work together to overcome any issues, and what you can do over the summer to prepare your child for next year.
Monday, May 06, 2024
Bicycle safety is no accident
Children need exercise to stay healthy and fit to learn. But they also need to know how to exercise safely. Each year thousands of children are injured while riding bicycles. Many of these injuries are preventable. Teach your child about bike safety and make sure all family members always wear a properly-fitting helmet when riding. Then, supervise when your child rides. Until kids reach age 10, they should not ride bikes in the street.
Sunday, May 05, 2024
Help your child picture positive possibilities
Does your elementary schooler think that success is something that just happens to others? One way to change that mindset is to talk about all the good things that could possibly happen to your child. Be creative. Show that you see a bright future for child. Chances are, you'll start your child thinking about positive possibilities, too. And that's an important step toward success.
Saturday, May 04, 2024
Boost your child’s motivation to learn
To spark your child's desire to learn, be a learner yourself. Show curiosity and tackle new projects. Then, share what you learn with your child. Show an interest in what your elementary schooler is learning, too. Above all, express your confidence in your child's ability to learn, and make it clear that problems can be solved.
Friday, May 03, 2024
Strengthen skills with time outdoors
Being out in nature sharpens children's observation skills and builds creativity. Go outside with your child and allow time to quietly watch the environment. Then, ask some questions: "Can you feel where the wind is coming from?" "What's the ant doing?" To stimulate creativity, suggest making up poems, songs and stories about what your child is seeing and doing.
Thursday, May 02, 2024
There's value in putting numbers into words
Writing numbers out in word form can help your child to understand the mathematical concept of "place value." Give your child a list of four or five numbers, such as 562, 73, 184, 16 and 43. Have your elementary schooler write them in words: five hundred sixty-two, seventy-three and so on. Talk about how the words go from the highest place value to the lowest. Then, provide the words and ask your child to write the numbers.
Wednesday, May 01, 2024
Celebrate May holidays with learning
Memorial Day (May 27) is only one of the holidays you and your child can celebrate this month. Practice kindness to a pet during Be Kind to Animals Week (May 5-11). Write limericks on Limerick Day (May 12). Discuss cooperation, understanding and solidarity on the International Day of Living Together in Peace (May 16). Read about aviation on the anniversary of Charles Lindbergh's historic flight (May 21).
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Sunday, March 31, 2024
Enlarge your child's vocabulary with a few big words
Your elementary schooler’s vocabulary may be filled with short, simple words. But you don't have to speak to your child in small words. Expand vocabulary by using some "big" words occasionally. Children naturally mimic the adults around them, so to teach your child a new word, use it often. Define it. Use it in another sentence. Relate it to words your child already knows ("This book is so interesting; it's captivating!").
Saturday, March 30, 2024
Give your child a chance to be a news expert
For some students, learning about current events is a challenge. It isn't easy to read and remember so many different topics. You can help by asking each member of your family to choose a different news story to follow for three or four days. Your child can become the family expert on a topic by reading articles and watching news items. Then, at dinner, take turns sharing what you've each learned.
Friday, March 29, 2024
Take time to demonstrate character
It takes time to help your child develop an internal sense of right and wrong, but it is time well-spent. Help your elementary schooler learn to make good choices by taking advantage of teachable moments in your lives. For example, if your car door scratches another car, tell your child, "Since no one saw that, I could just drive away. But I'm going to leave a note for the car's owner. Taking responsibility is the right thing to do."
Thursday, March 28, 2024
Disagreement is no excuse for disrespect
Disagreement and division have led to violence in recent times. To teach your child that it is possible and preferable to address disagreements with respect, make it a rule at your house: "When we discuss an issue with different sides to it, we will hear all sides and, if necessary, we'll agree to disagree." In that case, your child will have to accept your authority, but children shouldn't have to change their viewpoints.
Wednesday, March 27, 2024
Do your part to break the bullying cycle
It's critical that families help their children deal with bullies. Children who are bullied often end up being bullies themselves. To stop the cycle: Ask the school staff what you can do to combat bullying. Discuss solutions with other families. Talk to your child, too. Boost your student’s self-confidence with a reminder of all the things you like about your child. Say that you take bullying seriously, and insist that your child tell an adult when experiencing or seeing it.
Tuesday, March 26, 2024
Stop the self-criticism cycle from derailing your child
Some children can be very hard on themselves. They feel like failures if they aren't the "best." This can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. To ward off perfectionism, set reasonable goals for your child and relax about normal mistakes. And don't brush off self-criticism. Instead, discuss it. Remind your child that no one can be perfect. Point out your elementary schooler’s strengths, and encourage the use of affirmative self-talk, such as "I'm proud of how hard I tried."
Monday, March 25, 2024
Help your child turn words into pictures
Many students struggle with a common reading problem. They can recognize the individual words in a passage, but they have trouble understanding the overall meaning. Help your elementary schooler learn to visualize. When your child reads to you, describe the images that occur in your mind. Or, help your child draw pictures or diagrams of the story's action. You could even act out the story, and have your child describe what you are doing.
Sunday, March 24, 2024
Think and plan with your child before saying 'yes' to a pet
Caring for a pet can teach kids responsibility and self-discipline, but it's serious business. Before you get a pet, involve your child in thinking the decision through: What kind of pet would be best suited to your home? Your budget? Does your child have the skills and time to take care of it? What will happen to the pet when your family is at work and school? Write down what your elementary schooler will do to care for the pet and what the consequences will be if that doesn't happen.
Saturday, March 23, 2024
Share smart moves for before, during and after tests
The things your child does before, during and after tests can improve academic achievement. Before the test, have your child review frequently for short periods of time when feeling most alert. During the test, your child should read the directions carefully and save time to double-check work. When your child gets the test back, review it together and discuss strengths and weaknesses. Then, have your child save the test for future studying.
Friday, March 22, 2024
Add to your child's mental math skills
Here's a way to help your child practice doing math without using pencil and paper. Start by giving four single-digit numbers for your child to add together. Pause after you say each number to allow enough time to add. When your child can do that, give four double-digit numbers, also spaced out one at a time. Next, give four numbers all at once. When your child is a pro, you can move on to giving five, six or more numbers.
Thursday, March 21, 2024
Challenge your child to find words inside words
Here's a fun way to build your child's language skills: Write down a word, then have your child use its letters to make new words. For example, from the letters in the word "tadpole," your child can write the words "tea" and "ate." You can do this with holiday or seasonal words, or pick a word that matches your child's interests. How many words can your student find in "watermelon" or "rhinoceros"?
Wednesday, March 20, 2024
Put the focus on learning with a hands-off approach
Sometimes, parents and caregivers help too much with children’s school projects. It can be really tempting. After all, you want your child to get good grades. But there is a better approach. Instead of thinking about grades, think about what your child can learn from doing the project independently. Ask the teacher about the best ways to support your child's efforts.
Tuesday, March 19, 2024
Teach your child discipline with a few basic rules
Some families are afraid to discipline their children. But effective discipline isn't really about punishment. It is about teaching your child how to behave as you expect. Develop a few basic house rules and reasonable consequences for breaking them. Explain them clearly to your child. When you enforce the rules fairly and consistently, your child will learn what the limits are.
Monday, March 18, 2024
Make room at the table for a map
To have some fun teaching your child geography, get a world map and put it on your dinner table. Cover it with a sheet of clear plastic from the craft store. Now at meals your family can talk about what is happening in the world. Help your child find countries mentioned in the news. Quiz family members on countries and their capitals. You might also try a state or national map.
Sunday, March 17, 2024
Praise specific behavior you want to see again
The best praise is specific. Just saying "You're wonderful," won't always make children feel good about themselves. Instead, try talking about things your child has done especially well. You might say things like, "You really stuck with that math work. I love your persistence" or "You cleaned your room without my asking. That was very responsible."
Saturday, March 16, 2024
Encourage persistence, step by step
It takes persistence to achieve long-term goals. Learning to break those goals down into small steps can help your child keep going. To encourage persistence, help your child think of each step as an experience that adds to knowledge. When a step isn't fun, help your student plan a small reward for finishing it, such as listening to a favorite song. Then, mark your child’s progress with visual reminders, such as stickers on a chart.
Friday, March 15, 2024
Get help if schoolwork is a constant challenge
If your child is struggling day after day with schoolwork, contact the teacher. Explain what is happening and ask for suggestions. Your child might need extra help from a tutor or a schedule to make up missed assignments. Your student may need more challenging work or help with English or technological issues. Work with the teacher on a plan to address the issue, then follow up.
Thursday, March 14, 2024
Put your child's creativity on display
When you display your elementary schooler’s artwork, it encourages further creativity. Putting art on the refrigerator is great, but why not go a step beyond? Try matting and framing a piece of your child's art that is particularly creative. Let your child help you use an inexpensive ready-made mat and frame, then hang the masterpiece for all to see. Or use a copier to duplicate the art so your child can share it with family and friends.
Wednesday, March 13, 2024
D is for your child's own dictionary
To boost literacy skills, help your child make a personal dictionary. Write a letter of the alphabet on a sheet of paper. Next, ask your child to cut out pictures from ads or old magazines of items that begin with that letter, and paste them to the sheet. Help your child label the pictures. Then, pick another letter! This is a long-term project, so if it stops being fun, stop and come back to it another day.
Tuesday, March 12, 2024
A few extra minutes can make a big difference
Often, children with poor study habits don't change them because they don't believe that a little extra effort can go a long way. To get the idea across, try having your child study one subject for 15 minutes longer than usual each day. Your student might use the time to rework math problems from class or make up a sample test, for example. Then, watch how this small extra effort affects progress and grades in that subject.
Monday, March 11, 2024
Talk about ways your child can handle anger
Feeling angry sometimes is normal. But children need to learn appropriate ways to express their anger. Teach your elementary schooler coping strategies to use when feeling angry, such as taking deep breaths. Also, encourage your child to think for a minute before saying anything, or to get away from the situation until calm feelings return. Discuss appropriate actions in different situations: Your student can walk away or tell an adult when being teased, for example.
Sunday, March 10, 2024
Catching words makes reading fun!
Kids who enjoy reading do more of it. Make reading fun for your young reader with a "fishing" game: Get some index cards. Write one vocabulary word on each, then attach a paper clip to each card. These are the fish. To make a rod, tie a magnet to one end of a piece of string, and tie the other end to a small stick. Now, let your child "fish" for words. Award one point for every word your child can read (or define, if your student is older).
Saturday, March 09, 2024
Point out the positive results of effort
When it comes to achieving in school, intelligence propels students only so far. It takes hard work to get the rest of the way. Let your child know you place a high value on effort. Then, reinforce your message by showing your student how effort pays off. When your elementary schooler gets a high grade on a test, for example, say, "I know how hard you studied, and this is the result. I'm proud of you."
Friday, March 08, 2024
Help your child learn to work as part of a team
Leadership is a positive trait, but students also need to know how to work with others without taking over. To encourage fairness, take turns making some family decisions, such as what toppings to put on a pizza. Discuss the need to consider everyone's tastes. Promote fairness by setting rules such as "If one person chooses the game, the other gets the first turn." Offer praise when your child shows teamwork.
Thursday, March 07, 2024
Get set for standardized tests
Standardized tests are a part of most students' school careers. Ask the teacher when your child will be taking a standardized test. Then, help your student prepare by reading, talking and playing word games together. When your child reads, boost comprehension skills by asking questions, such as "What was the main idea?" Above all, keep standardized tests in perspective. They are only one measure of your child's ability.
Wednesday, March 06, 2024
Set the timer to jumpstart writing
Here's a great way to encourage your child to write. Together, choose a topic. Then, set a timer for five to seven minutes. Until the timer rings, both of you write whatever comes into your head. Keep writing, even if it doesn't make sense. When the timer goes off, share what you each wrote. This also works to help jumpstart a writing assignment when your child says, "I can't think of anything to say."
Tuesday, March 05, 2024
Help your child get ready to concentrate
Kids need to be able to concentrate when doing schoolwork. Here are some techniques that can help: When your child is about to tackle an assignment, offer this reminder: "Think through what you are going to do." A mental picture can make concentrating easier. You can also let your elementary schooler choose a fun activity to earn when the work is complete, such as playing a game with you. It may help your child persist through a tough task.
Monday, March 04, 2024
Show your child how to make the time for projects
You've got a big project looming. Your child has a science report due and has yet to start it. The solution to both situations is the same: Don't put things off. Together, make specific plans for doing the work for your projects. Put them on the calendar. Then, show your child how to look for "extra" time. You both can brainstorm project ideas while waiting in line, for example. Your child can read a few pages of research material on a car ride.
Sunday, March 03, 2024
To encourage reading, try tips from the kids
When the Reading is Fundamental program asked children what encouraged them to read, the kids had great responses. Here are some to try: Let your child pick out books. Set goals and offer small incentives (one mom adds a new circle to a paper "reading caterpillar" for each book her child reads). Send your child notes of praise for finishing a chapter or to say "I love you." And set an example by reading in your own free time.
Saturday, March 02, 2024
Serve up conversation at family meals
It may not be easy to get your family together for a meal, but research shows it's worth the effort. Mealtime conversation can improve your child's vocabulary and academic performance, and strengthen bonds with you. Strive to eat at least one meal as a family each day. Turn off distracting devices and talk about everyone's day. Address your child directly and encourage participation in the conversation.
Friday, March 01, 2024
Encourage your child to use time management tools
To succeed academically, your child will need to be able to plan and use time wisely. To begin building this skill, teach your child to be a clock-watcher and calendar-counter. For example, ask your student to watch the clock to make sure your family is ready on time for school, work or other activities. And have your child use a calendar to count off the days until a birthday, spring break or a special family outing.
eTips: Daily Engagement Messages for February 2024
Thursday, February 29, 2024
Learn a new word for a special occasion
2024 is a leap year, and February has an extra day. Teach your child another name for leap year: "Intercalary year." Intercalary means "inserted into a calendar," or "inserted between other things or parts." How many times today can your family use this new word in a sentence?
Wednesday, February 28, 2024
Five things teachers really want from families
Teamwork between home and school can make a big difference to your child's learning. Here are five things teachers wish all families would do: 1. Build your child's confidence with praise and love. 2. Discuss the school day and the things your child is learning together. 3. Support your child's effort with schoolwork. 4. Schedule some relaxed reading time each evening. 5. Partner with the teachers to support school success.
Tuesday, February 27, 2024
Experiment with fractions your child can see
Some children find fractions more intimidating than whole numbers. Hands-on activities can help your elementary schooler see and understand the concepts. Try this one: Get out some measuring cups and two identical glasses. Have your child pour one cup of water into the first glass. Then, have your child guess: How many half-cups will it take to fill the other glass to the same level? How many quarter cups? One-third cups? Experiment together to find out.
Monday, February 26, 2024
No-nag strategies help your child keep track of responsibilities
Nobody likes to be nagged. But kids need to be reminded of their responsibilities once in a while. Here are some simple solutions: Teach your child to write tasks on a to-do list in order of importance and cross them off as they are finished. You can also make a job chart that lists responsibilities, when they should be done and by whom. Then you can just point to the chart. Or, create a "daily reminder box" that family members can check.
Sunday, February 25, 2024
When kids teach, they also learn
Sometimes, the best way to remember something is by teaching it to someone else. When it’s time to study for a test, have your child make up questions for you to answer. Take the test, then let your child explain the answers to you. You'll learn what your elementary schooler knows (and where things are a little fuzzy), and your child will solidify understanding of the information.
Saturday, February 24, 2024
Be clear about the behavior you want to see
"Don't forget your jacket." "Don't run in the street." Sometimes it seems like adults fill kids' heads with all the things they're not supposed to do. The problem is that young children often tune out the word "don't." Instead, tell your child what TO DO: "Take your jacket. Stay on the sidewalk."
Friday, February 23, 2024
Encourage your child's creative side
Children can sometimes express themselves better through movement or artwork than they can in words. To encourage your child's artistic self-expression, offer a variety of materials for art projects. Provide a place to work where it's OK to make a mess. Expose your elementary schooler to creative works by others, too. Without even leaving home, you may be able to visit an art museum's website, and watch virtual plays, concerts and dance performances online.
Thursday, February 22, 2024
Footprints make learning facts fun
Here's a way to make memorizing things like math facts more engaging for your child: Cut out a lot of paper footprints. Write a math fact (5 x 7 = 35, for example) on each and place them throughout your home. Have your child follow the footprints, saying each fact out loud. Rearrange the footprints around the house each day.
Wednesday, February 21, 2024
To encourage action, play Beat the Clock
If you have trouble getting your child to do something, try transferring your authority to a neutral "boss." For example, when you want your child to finish a chore, complete schoolwork or get ready for bed, set a kitchen timer and play Beat the Clock. Your child must complete the activity before the buzzer rings. Kids love it when the kitchen timer is in charge, and you won't have to be the bad guy.
Tuesday, February 20, 2024
Open the door to creative stories with five words
When children tell stories, they learn to use their imaginations, to play with words and to structure their thoughts. To have some family fun with storytelling, select at least five words with no connection to one another (for example: dragon, song, tree, happy, forgetful). Have each family member tell a story that includes all the selected words. Then, compile your tales in a book, Stories of Our Family.
Monday, February 19, 2024
Are you showing your child how to resolve differences respectfully?
The way you manage your response during a conflict sets an example for your child. When you get upset with someone, be a role model. Calm down by counting to 10, or agree to talk later when you're calm. Try to be honest about your feelings, and listen carefully to the other person's feelings. Remember to talk about the problem, rather than attack the person. Then, think of possible solutions and agree on what's fair.
Sunday, February 18, 2024
Make it easier for your child to do schoolwork
Helping with schoolwork doesn't include doing it for your child. Instead, support your child’s effort to do it. Make sure your elementary schooler has a clear place to study. Then, establish schoolwork routines so your child will develop positive study habits. Turn distractions like TVs, phones and loud music off. When subjects are challenging, help your child see how they relate to personal interests. You can also add some fun by making up games or songs to help your child learn facts.
Saturday, February 17, 2024
Family time doesn't have to be complicated
Families hear a lot about spending "quality time" with their children. But quantity time is important, too. Children who spend more time with their parents tend to do better in school. Try taking a daily walk with your child. You both need exercise, and you'll have time to talk. Eat at least one meal together each day. And look for things you can do as a family, such as having a picnic in the park or playing a game of Scrabble.
Friday, February 16, 2024
Reinforce the link between actions and consequences
It's important for your child to understand that actions have consequences. Whenever possible, establish consequences that logically flow from your child's actions. For example: If your child won't get up in the morning, bedtime will have to be set earlier, since your child obviously needs more sleep. To reinforce that all choices have consequences, sometimes have family members talk at dinner about the consequences of their choices that day.
Thursday, February 15, 2024
Bring world events to your child's wall
To help your child learn about what's happening in the world, create a current events wall together. Encourage your child to look through news articles and print or cut out pictures and articles about current events. Post them on a bulletin board. Older children can sort the stories into categories, such as local, national and world articles, or topics, such as science and sports. Change the display every week or two.
Wednesday, February 14, 2024
Special time makes the best valentine
This Valentine's Day, show your child your love with a gift of quality time with you. Here's how: Cut out some paper hearts. On each one, put an amount of time (10, 15 or 30 minutes, an hour). Each heart is good for the specified amount of one-on-one time with you. Then, let your child trade in a voucher for your undivided attention at the soonest convenient time. And today and every day, tell your child “I love you!”
Tuesday, February 13, 2024
Add some math to your child's TV time
Does your child love TV? Here's a way to add value to screen time. While watching a show, have your child keep track of the number of minutes of program before each commercial break, and then the number of minutes of commercials. Which is greater, program minutes or commercial minutes? Help your child create a bar graph with the results.
Monday, February 12, 2024
Encourage skill-building by making it fun
Your child is learning new skills in school. And providing opportunities to practice them at home in fun ways helps to solidify them. To reinforce writing skills, for example, you could have a "silent supper," where family members write notes instead of talking. You can also make practicing math facts a game by writing math problems in one column and the answers in another (in a different order) and having your child match them up.
Sunday, February 11, 2024
There are many positive reasons to talk to teachers
Have you contacted your child's teacher lately? You don't have to have a problem to talk to the teachers. You can mention how hard your child is working. Or let the teacher know about progress you think your child is making. Get in touch by email or ask the teacher for a conference appointment. The information you share about your student helps teachers be more effective.
Saturday, February 10, 2024
Give back talk the silent treatment
It can be very irritating when children have to have the last word in every argument, or mumble negatively under their breath. But instead of getting angry, experts suggest that you ignore your child's last words. Back talk won't get your elementary schooler anywhere if you've ended the conversation, stopped listening and begun to walk away. Wait until you are both calm and then return to the conversation.
Friday, February 09, 2024
Teach a respectful approach to questioning teachers
Teachers are human and can make mistakes. But there is a right way and a wrong way for students to question a teacher. It's disrespectful to speak up in the middle of the class and say, "You're wrong!" and try to prove the teacher incorrect. Instead, teach your child to respectfully ask questions that promote understanding: "Did you mean…?" "Well, what if…?" "What do you think about…?"
Thursday, February 08, 2024
Break big tasks into small pieces to help your child see them through
Many elementary schoolers have a tough time thinking ahead and following through on their plans. One reason is that they lack a realistic sense of time. Your child may really think one day is enough time to finish a big project. Help your student break large assignments down into small parts to do over several days.
Wednesday, February 07, 2024
An audience makes reading aloud more fun
Kids enjoy reading to their families, and listening to your child read is a great way to instill a love of reading. When you're not available, give your child the next best thing: a captive audience. Gather a few stuffed animals or action figures around your student. They can listen while your child reads. Later, ask your child about audience reactions. "What was Monkey's favorite part?" "Did Batman understand the main point?"
Tuesday, February 06, 2024
The smart way to learn requires effort
Effort is essential for academic success. Students who try will learn and get smarter. Remind your child that when it comes to intelligence, "It's what you do with what you have that counts." Offer encouragement by saying often that you are sure that with effort and persistence, your student can learn anything. And when your child makes progress, be sure to say "You see? Your hard work is paying off."
Monday, February 05, 2024
Play a guessing game with sound-alike words
Homophones are words that sound alike but have different spellings and meanings (heal, heel; bear, bare; weigh, way). To sharpen your child's sense of language, think of a pair of homophones and give clues to guess it. For example, "I'm thinking of a word that is a letter and a drink" (T, tea). Get started with some of these pairs: ant, aunt; board, bored; hole, whole; meet, meat; rows, rose.
Sunday, February 04, 2024
Move forward from a poor report card
How should you react to a poor report card? First, there’s no need to panic or get upset. Just talk to your child calmly about each grade. Ask, “Do you understand why you earned this grade?” Next, ask the teacher about things your child can do to improve and ways you can help. Find out what help may be available from the school, such as peer tutoring. Then, help your child set specific, achievable goals for improvement.
Saturday, February 03, 2024
Use poems to build language skills
Reading poetry together enhances your child’s awareness of language and how it can be used. Share a wide variety of poems with your elementary schooler. When you read them, speak slowly and let your child listen to each word. Your student is likely to hear new descriptive words. Talk about unfamiliar words, and help your child look them up. Your student will build vocabulary and gain ideas for use when writing.
Friday, February 02, 2024
Go 'shopping' for financial literacy
Create an imaginary cash register and give your child practice making correct change. Here's how: Sort a few dollars' worth of change into four boxes: one each for pennies, nickels, dimes and quarters. Then, put together a selection of "products" marked with prices. Take turns with your child being cashier and customer. Add to the challenge by increasing the number of items you buy at a time.
Thursday, February 01, 2024
A lot of learning can happen in just a few minutes
In as little as five minutes a day, you can help your child learn. You can ask a question to stimulate creative thinking (What if the sun came up at night?). Or ask your child to express an opinion and back it up with reasons (What is your favorite book? Why?). You can tell a story full of information about the real world, or simply say "I love you." Children need to feel loved to take the risks necessary to learn.
eTips: Daily Engagement Messages for January 2024
Wednesday, January 31, 2024
Teach your child who to call in an emergency
Does your child know who to call in an emergency? Don't wait for a crisis to find out. You should have these numbers programmed in your cell phone and posted by every telephone in your home: Police, fire and emergency responders (911); family members' work phones and cell phones; a nearby neighbor. Show your child how to make calls. Talk about which number to call in different circumstances, and what to say.
Tuesday, January 30, 2024
Create a family yearbook with your child
Family bonds give children a sense of security. One way to foster this important connection is to have your child help you preserve family memories in a yearbook. Throughout the year, collect photos of family events and have your child put them in an album. Add things that remind you each of special times: a recipe you all loved, a leaf found on an autumn walk. Encourage your child to write captions.
Monday, January 29, 2024
Make math tasty with an estimation game
Estimation is an important part of math. Here's a fun way for your child to practice estimating: Get two large glasses of the same size. Fill one with something small (like dry beans). Fill the other with something large (like cookies). Have your child estimate how many pieces are in each glass. Then, have your student count to check the answers. Finally, enjoy the cookies together!
Sunday, January 28, 2024
One activity will help your child every day
One of the most important things you can do to help your child succeed in school is to read aloud together. It introduces young children to the delights of books, and even older kids love to be read to. Make reading aloud together a daily priority. To keep it interesting, be sure to read books you enjoy. And sometimes, build your child's vocabulary by reading books that are a little too advanced for your child to read alone.
Saturday, January 27, 2024
Create silly sentences to make lists memorable
Studying for a test usually involves memorizing. Your child can remember lists of items by writing a sentence using words that begin with the first letter of each word in the list. For example, the first letter of each word in "My Very Educated Mother Just Served Us Noodles" stands for the first letters of the planets: Mercury, Venus, Earth, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus and Neptune.
Friday, January 26, 2024
Help your child give up on quitting
It's important to teach your child that failure is something that can happen, not something a person is. Here are some things you can say to encourage your elementary schooler after a setback: "That's a challenge, but I know if you stick with it you can do it." "It will get easier with more practice." "If it doesn't work that way, try another way." "You were able to do ____ when you thought you couldn't. I bet you can do this, too."
Thursday, January 25, 2024
Explain how to respond to bullies
Bullying can happen in person and online. But students are less likely to be bullied if they appear confident and resourceful. Encourage your child to avoid kids who demonstrate bullying behavior. In a bullying situation, remind your child to say "no" and express feelings with words, not violence. Ask your student to tell you or a trusted adult at school about bullying behavior directed at your child or anyone else. And if you think your child is being bullied, tell the school immediately.
Wednesday, January 24, 2024
Give your child time to think
Your elementary schooler is learning how to think about learning as well as facts. To nurture these skills, allow some time for your child to figure schoolwork out independently. If your student has forgotten how to do a math problem, for example, ask, "How could you find out?" And when your child finishes an assignment or project, ask questions about how the process went, such as "Did you allow enough time to finish?" and "What did you learn?"
Tuesday, January 23, 2024
Reading time isn't over when you reach 'The End'
Some of the best reading times come after you've closed the book. After reading aloud together, ask your child to retell the story. Which were the good parts? Why does your child think so? Next, help make connections between the book and your child's own life. Has your child ever felt like any of the characters in the story? Thinking and talking about books enriches your child's reading experience.
Monday, January 22, 2024
Teach self-control by giving responsibility
It takes time for children to understand the value of self-control, as opposed to control that's imposed by adults. You can help by gradually giving your child more responsibility for completing schoolwork and chores. Be patient and persistent, and your elementary schooler will grow into a happy, self-disciplined adult who is ready and able to tackle life's challenges.
Sunday, January 21, 2024
Attendance is critical for your child's success
Children who miss school often fall behind and score lower on tests. They can have a hard time making and keeping friends. And frequent absences in elementary school set a pattern that increases the risk that a student will drop out of school later. Make school attendance a family priority. Don't let your child skip school for reasons other than illness or emergency. If your student regularly resists going to school, or your family is facing attendance obstacles, let the teacher or school counselor know.
Saturday, January 20, 2024
Support your child on the way to ambitious goals
People who achieve usually set their sights high. If your child has set a lofty goal, help break it down into a series of smaller, readily achievable goals. Then, provide support if the going gets rough. Say things like, "Keep your eyes on your goal. Getting on the honor roll is worth it." Be sure to recognize your child's progress. Remind your elementary schooler that progress itself is a success, even if the goal is still unmet.
Friday, January 19, 2024
Play a comparison game with your child
Comparing is a thinking skill your child will need in school. Here's a game that will sharpen this skill: Find several pictures of items that are similar but not the same. They might be things such as flowers, houses, babies or cars. Make some big, some small, some different colors. Ask your child to put similar pictures together. Then, ask why your child grouped them that way. How many different ways can your elementary schooler group them?
Thursday, January 18, 2024
Talk about how to show respect for others
Respect is the basis for other desirable behaviors in school. Discuss common courtesies with your child, like saying "Thank you" and "Excuse me" that show respect. Explain that trying to understand other people's viewpoints is another respectful courtesy, as is being honest and not deceiving, cheating or stealing from others.
Wednesday, January 17, 2024
Practice scientific thinking at home
Scientists know that asking the right questions leads to learning. To practice the "scientific method" at home, have your child think of a question (What happens to plants if it stops raining?). Next, read about the topic together and have your child make a guess about the answer. Then, help your child figure out how to test if the guess is right (grow two plants, but water only one). Your student should write down what happens and report to you on the results.
Tuesday, January 16, 2024
When helping with schoolwork, think ABC
Helping your child with schoolwork can be as simple as ABC (and D and E)! A is for Attitude. Model a positive attitude toward learning for your child. B is for Breaks. Let your student take short breaks during study sessions. C is for Choice. Let your child choose what to work on first. D is for Directions. Your child should read them carefully, then restate them. E is for Encouragement. Find positive things to say about your elementary schooler's efforts.
Monday, January 15, 2024
This trick looks like magic, but it's science
Try this science experiment with your child: Place a penny on a sheet of paper. Set a clear glass of water on top of the penny. Can your child see the penny? Next, cover the top of the glass with a saucer. The penny disappears! Explain that we see objects when light rays reflect off them into our eyes. But the light reflecting off the penny has to pass through air, water and glass, which makes it bend. The saucer blocks the bent light ray from reaching your child's eye, and the penny seems to disappear.
Sunday, January 14, 2024
A failing grade is feedback for the future
Your child didn't pass a test. What should you do? Think of F as standing for "feedback." First, notice anything your child got right. Then, help your student learn from the rest by asking questions such as: What kinds of questions did you miss? Did you miss them because of something you didn't read or remember from your notes or the book? Did you make careless errors on questions you knew? What does this test tell you about how you should prepare for the next one?
Saturday, January 13, 2024
Send your child off to sleep with positive thoughts
The last words you say to your child at bedtime will be the words that will echo in your elementary schooler’s brain all night. Make a daily habit of remembering the best thing your child did that day. Talk about it right before saying goodnight.
Friday, January 12, 2024
Ask questions to encourage thinking
Not every problem your child will face will have an easy solution. So it's important to teach your student to ask questions and think things through. To promote this kind of thought, say things like, "I wonder why that happened" or "I wonder what might happen if …?" Encourage your child to ask questions about the world all around. And when your elementary schooler expresses an opinion, demonstrate how to find facts to support it.
Thursday, January 11, 2024
Share a strategy for success on matching tests
Tests in elementary school often have a matching section. To help your child score well, talk about how to answer this type of question. Remind your child to read all the directions carefully. Then your child should look to see whether one column is longer than the other. If so, some answers may not get used. Tell your child to match the easiest items first, and then cross out already used answers. That will narrow the choices for the tougher matches.
Wednesday, January 10, 2024
When you set rules and limits, explain why
Children need and want limits. But don't simply make a rule and demand obedience from your child. Once kids are old enough to reason, they should be encouraged to do so. Understanding why they should or should not do things helps them make good decisions when adults aren't around. When you make a rule or set a boundary, explain why your child should obey it (and avoid saying things like, "Because I said so!").
Tuesday, January 09, 2024
Balance screen time with activities that matter
Children learn by doing. The main problem with too many passive screen activities is that they keep kids from doing more productive things. Students are spending more time with screens to do schoolwork. So after school, make sure your child spends plenty of time reading, playing outdoors, making art, pretending or just thinking. These activities are vital for healthy development.
Monday, January 08, 2024
Chapter books make great 'installment' read alouds
Young children have short attention spans, so short books work well for read-aloud times. But as they grow older, children can enjoy longer, more challenging books. Reading books aloud on the "installment plan" is a great way to read with an older elementary schooler. Try reading a chapter each night. Then, stop and ask what your child thinks might happen next. Who is your child’s favorite character? Why?
Sunday, January 07, 2024
Telling a story can make it easier to write
Creative writing assignments can be challenging for students. Some children can't think of anything to write. Or they can think of a beginning, but by the time they write it down, they've forgotten where they were going next. One strategy that can help is to have your child tell the story into a recording device. Then your student can just listen to it and write it down. Your child will probably have to do some editing, but it's a great way to overcome writer’s block.
Saturday, January 06, 2024
Teach the three A's that improve school success
Grades aren’t the only A’s that matter in school. Your child can be successful in school by mastering these three A's: 1. Attendance. Attendance is a fundamental factor in academic success. You know how important it is in the working world, too. Teach your child that it’s a priority. 2. Attitude. Help your child learn the importance of effort. Explain by putting effort into school, your child will learn. 3. Achievement. Teach your child to set and work toward goals. Encourage your elementary schooler to aim high.
Friday, January 05, 2024
Show your child the positive side of mistakes
What sets successful people apart? When things don't work out the way they plan, they don't think of themselves as failures. Instead, they always try to learn from the experience. To instill this habit in your child, ask, "What would you do differently the next time?" Explain that you're always proud of your child for trying new things and new ways to solve problems, because that's how people get smarter.
Thursday, January 04, 2024
Simple ways you can make a difference every day
Families play an enormous part in their children's academic achievement. Here are some simple, effective things to do to help your student: Establish routines for schoolwork, chores, mealtimes and bedtime. Read with your child every day, and make wise use of limited recreational screen time. Supervise your child's activities. And when it comes to school, express high expectations for your child, then encourage and praise effort.
Wednesday, January 03, 2024
Help your child start the day a healthy way
Research shows that a nutritious breakfast helps children do better in school. Help your child research healthy breakfast foods. Have your student draw or cut out pictures of breakfast foods, then look up their nutritional information, such as sugar, fat, vitamins and fiber. Then your child can put the pictures and information on a poster for your kitchen. Together, use the poster to plan a week of healthy breakfasts.
Tuesday, January 02, 2024
Remember 10 rules for promoting positive behavior
Ten rules can help you maintain effective discipline and a healthy relationship with your child: 1. Set positive goals for behavior. 2. Make rules and consequences clear and enforce them consistently. 3. Involve your child in solving problems. 4. Avoid lecturing. 5. Offer praise for good behavior. 6. Ask why your child misbehaved, rather than making assumptions. 7. Use logical consequences. 8. Let your child make some choices. 9. Expect your child’s best effort. 10. Focus on your child’s strengths and show your love.
Monday, January 01, 2024
Resolve to make this a year for reading!
It's New Year's resolution time. To promote school success in 2024, make some resolutions that involve reading. Resolve to: 1. Set aside time every day when the whole family reads. 2. Keep lots of enticing reading material handy. 3. Read aloud with your child every day. Then, to stick to your resolutions, make a plan and track your progress. Don't forget to reward yourselves!
eTips: Daily Engagement Messages for December 2023
Sunday, December 31, 2023
Make new goals as clear as a bell
Ring in the New Year by helping your child improve school habits. Help your elementary schooler identify poor habits to get rid of and decide on new positive habits to adopt instead. Next, have your child cut some bell shapes out of paper. Write the habits your child wants to stop and start on the bells and hang them from some colorful streamers. Then ring out the old and ring in the new!
Saturday, December 30, 2023
Reaffirm your commitment to help your child learn
Families have supported their students in many ways this year. 2023 may be over, but the need for your involvement in your child's education continues until your student graduates. As we head into 2024, consider making this pledge: "I promise to monitor my child's schoolwork and talk about school and what my student is learning. I will expect my child's best effort in school. I will read with my child every day, and say "I love you" and "I know you can learn and do well."
Friday, December 29, 2023
Token earning can motivate learning
When learning something new, some children respond well to learning incentives. These are rewards your child receives after performing well. Give points or tokens when your child does what's expected. Take them away when your child doesn't. Let your student trade the tokens for play time or small rewards. Don't make it too difficult to earn them, or your child may end up feeling defeated.
Thursday, December 28, 2023
Prepare your child to tackle challenges
Competence leads to confidence. To give your elementary schooler the confidence to face academic and life challenges, help improve organizational skills. Having items when they are needed makes kids feel capable. Also, offer your child plenty of opportunities to express opinions and have them taken seriously. Talk together about how you handle work responsibilities and challenges, too. Your attitude will inspire similar behavior from your child.
Wednesday, December 27, 2023
Whip up some enthusiasm for spelling
Here's a fun idea to help your child master the alphabet and the spelling of simple words: Spread a layer of whipped cream on a dark-colored tray or plate. Have your child use a finger to write letters and words. Mistakes are easily wiped away, and correct spelling is quickly rewarded with a lick of a finger.
Tuesday, December 26, 2023
Schedule time for the things that matter
There is no doubt about it. Routines help children feel comfortable and confident. Setting up routines can also help you avoid arguments with your child and encourage positive study habits. Consider making these items part of your family's daily routine: A discussion of what happened during each person's day; regular times for schoolwork, chores and preparing for the next day; family reading time and exercise.
Monday, December 25, 2023
Cozy up for family storytelling
Are you looking for educational family entertainment? Then grab some snacks and get cozy for a family storytelling night. To prepare, read a book to yourself enough times that you can tell your own version to your family. When you tell stories, your child creates mental images, an important reading skill. Have your elementary schooler tell a story, too!
Sunday, December 24, 2023
One good book may lead your child to another
You know reading is important, but your child just isn't interested in picking up a book. To encourage reading, ask to hear about a book that your child liked (or one that at least wasn't too bad). Then, look for other books that author has written. Get one and read the beginning aloud. If you can get to the "good part," your child may be more interested in reading the rest independently.
Saturday, December 23, 2023
Teach empathy by example
Research shows that students do better academically and socially when their families emphasize kindness as much as they do grades. True kindness involves understanding how others feel. Model empathy for your child. Ask questions like, "How did that make you feel?" Then, show that you listened: "It sounds like you were really relieved." Imagine together how other people might be feeling, too. Make it a point to reward your child's thoughtfulness with praise.
Friday, December 22, 2023
Build your child's cooperation skills
To succeed in school, students need to be able to work well with others. Take time to teach your elementary schooler about cooperation. Make it clear that you expect your child to take turns and share, and offer praise when you see this behavior. Encourage your child to be honest by demonstrating honesty yourself. And explain that it makes you proud when your child admits mistakes and takes responsibility for them.
Thursday, December 21, 2023
Pull out a puzzle for family thinking fun
Jigsaw puzzles are a great family winter activity. And they help develop your child's thinking skills and ability to recognize patterns. Pick a spot where you can leave the puzzle out while family members work on it. To add to the game, leave a scorecard out to keep track of how many pieces each person adds. Or put a star on the back of a piece and offer a reward to the person who fits it into its proper place.
Wednesday, December 20, 2023
Provide some memory building practice
How do children boost their memory skills? By memorizing. Here's a fun way to help your elementary schooler practice: Cut out five items from a grocery store ad. Ask your child to remember the items and their prices. Then remove the pictures. Can your child remember the items and what they cost? When remembering five is easy, try six, then seven and so on. Challenge your child to achieve a personal best.
Tuesday, December 19, 2023
Banish boredom with a creative board game
If your family has been playing the same board forever, have your child invent a new one! Cover an old or worn-out game board with white self-stick paper, then get out some colored markers and ask your child to draw a new game. Next, have your student write a set of rules for the new game. Then play! If you want to preserve the game, cover it with clear self-stick paper. It will last until your child is ready to invent another.
Monday, December 18, 2023
Send a strong message about substance abuse
Here are some facts all families should know: Kids who begin drinking before age 15 are six times more likely to develop alcohol dependence during their lifetimes than those who start after age 21. The median age for first alcohol abuse among teens is 14, and the most commonly abused drugs among 12- to 13-year-olds are alcohol, tobacco, marijuana and prescription medicines. Unintentional consumption of edible cannabis products by children is on the rise, and it often results in hospitalization. It's also true that kids who learn a lot about the risks of drugs and alcohol from their families from elementary school age on are 50 percent less likely to use them.
Sunday, December 17, 2023
Unwrap holiday meanings for your child
Holidays offer lots of fun activities and chances for families to create bonds and learn together. This season, set aside some quiet moments to talk with your child about the meanings of the holidays your family celebrates, and why you do what you do. Spend some time reading books together about December holidays such as Christmas, Hanukkah and Kwanzaa. Can your child think of a new holiday tradition your family can start?
Saturday, December 16, 2023
Engage your child in active thinking
Here are four ways to help your elementary schooler be an active thinker: 1. Encourage your child to ask questions. Then listen and take the questions seriously. 2. Ask your child to find facts to support opinions. 3. As you and your student go about daily activities, encourage guessing about how things work, and then try to find the answers together. 4. Challenge your child to make estimates: "How long do you think it will take to do this math?"
Friday, December 15, 2023
Listen to your child…and to the teacher
It's important for children to feel heard and believed. If your child tells you something a teacher did that seems unkind or unfair, you should listen. But don't assume the incident is as bad as it sounds. If you are concerned by what your child says, contact the teacher. Calmly express your concern and ask for the teacher's point of view. If there's a problem, work together to solve it.
Thursday, December 14, 2023
Create a checklist for a smoother morning
Even children who wake up early may have trouble getting ready for school on time. But a little bit of planning can make your morning routine less hectic. Make a list with your child of things that must be done each morning before anything else. Post the list and a pencil in a handy spot, and let your child check off tasks after completing them. Your elementary schooler will start the day with a sense of accomplishment.
Wednesday, December 13, 2023
Encourage responsible behavior three ways
Families want children to learn to make responsible choices about school and life. But constant direction and criticism can wear kids down. To encourage positive behavior, say thank you when your child behaves responsibly without being told. Praise efforts, not just outcomes. And encourage involvement in hobbies that keep your child busy. Busy kids need less external control than those with too much time on their hands.
Tuesday, December 12, 2023
Use the news as a teaching tool
Newspapers (in print or online) are a great source of learning activities for your child. Take turns at dinner having each family member report on something (even the comics) they read in today's paper. Or you can take turns reading a brief article aloud with your child and discussing what each of you thinks is the most important fact. To build geography skills, help your child find states and nations mentioned in the news on a world map.
Monday, December 11, 2023
Every child needs these priceless gifts
As you think about holiday gifts, remember there are some gifts that last a lifetime that only you can give your child: The gift of your time: reading together, helping with learning and just enjoying each other. The gift of understanding: that your child will make mistakes, and that you can help your student learn from them. The gift of confidence: Believing in your child's abilities helps your child believe, too.
Sunday, December 10, 2023
Preserve school-year memories your child can be proud of
Show that you think your child is special by making a school memory book. Collect school-related mementos like photos of your child reading, the super-hard math problem your student finally solved, etc. In the spring, lay them on the floor in chronological order and let your child choose what to include to remember this school year. Put the items in a scrapbook. If you do it each year, your child will have a visual reminder of many things to be proud of.
Saturday, December 09, 2023
Get a jump-start on good behavior
A large part of discipline should happen before your child misbehaves. Creating a loving, respectful relationship with your child can motivate good behavior. Then, be sure to praise what your child does right. To prevent repeated misbehavior, make some changes. A child who is always cranky and slow in the morning, for example, may need an earlier bedtime.
Friday, December 08, 2023
Turn words into action to improve writing
Writers carefully choose verbs that paint a picture of the action they want to convey. To help your child practice, play the Name That Action game. On slips of paper, write verbs that describe a precise action, like skip, hop, stomp, tiptoe, limp and crawl. Take turns drawing a slip and acting out the word. Whoever guesses the word goes next. Encourage your child to remember this game when writing. Choosing the right descriptive verb will make your child's writing come alive.
Thursday, December 07, 2023
Siblings are great for encouraging reading
Studies show that children who see an older brother or sister reading for fun are more likely to seek out books themselves. Read together often as a family. And when it's time for new books, take your children to the library together. Let your younger child watch the big kids browsing and reading.
Wednesday, December 06, 2023
Write and fold the way to spelling success
Here's a tip that can help your child study spelling words: Divide a piece of paper into four columns, labeled Cover, Look, Write and Check. Your child should write a word in the Look column and say the letters aloud. Next, fold the Cover column over the Look column. Have your child write the word from memory in the Write column. Your student can verify accuracy by uncovering the Look column, and then write the word correctly in the Check column.
Tuesday, December 05, 2023
Encourage your child to jot down reading summaries
By the time your child has finished reading the last chapter of a book, are the details of the beginning long forgotten? It will be easier to write or do projects about books if your child stops to write a short summary (one or two paragraphs) after reading each chapter. Then, after finishing the book, your child will be ready to edit the notes into a final report, or to choose key events to highlight in a project.
Monday, December 04, 2023
Focus on planning and persistence, not perfection
Successful students don't quit when schoolwork gets difficult. To encourage an "I can finish this" attitude, never offer to complete a project for your elementary schooler. Instead, help your child develop step-by-step plans for completing assignments on time. Then, offer praise for effort on each step of the process, not just for the final result. Help your student keep in mind that persistence is more important for learning than perfection.
Sunday, December 03, 2023
Spark imagination with picture books
Picture books are not just for preschoolers. They are great tools for stretching any child's creative thinking. Look at a picture book with your child and ask questions such as: "Can you tell me a story about what you see?" "Can you imagine what happened before this?" "What do you think will happen next?" "What do you think the artist was trying to say?" See how many stories and ideas your child can think of.
Saturday, December 02, 2023
Routines make children feel safe
A feeling of security gives children the courage to face changes and challenges. For most kids, that sense of security comes from feeling loved. It also comes from knowing that some things don't change. Establishing routines and following them will build your child's sense of security. Set regular times for bed, meals, reading and studying. When schedules must change, let your child know how and why.
Friday, December 01, 2023
Highlight the rewards of acting responsibly
Sometimes, children need to be reminded to fulfill their responsibilities. To remind your child without nagging, try using "When…then." For example, "When you have finished your schoolwork, then you may build with Legos." This helps your child remember the good things that can happen only after the task is done. This technique is most effective when you use it consistently.
eTips: Daily Engagement Messages for November 2023
Thursday, November 30, 2023
Encourage attempts at independent learning
Some children can become too dependent on family help with schoolwork. To offer support while helping your child become an independent learner: Explain that one of the things students must learn is to do their own schoolwork, and you will help. Then, select one section of an assignment for your child to try alone. Make sure your elementary schooler knows what to do, then leave the room. If the work is totally wrong, explain the concepts again. If the work is fine, have your child do another section.
Wednesday, November 29, 2023
Try pro tips for tutoring your child
Teachers do all they can to help students learn. But there may be times when your child also needs your support with schoolwork. Ask the teacher to suggest materials you can use, such as books or flashcards, and the best ways to help. Then, when tutoring your child, praise effort and correct responses. After an incorrect response, give the correct answer and ask your elementary schooler to repeat it. End tutoring sessions after 10 or 15 minutes, and keep a chart of your child's progress.
Tuesday, November 28, 2023
Replace perfectionism with more productive thinking
Some children can be very hard on themselves. They feel like failures if they aren't the best. To ward off this perfectionism, set reasonable goals for your child and relax about normal mistakes. When your child is self-critical, don't brush it off. Instead, discuss it. Remind your child that no one can be perfect. Point out your student's strengths, and encourage the use of affirmative self-talk, such as "I'm proud of how hard I tried."
Monday, November 27, 2023
Let your child learn from schoolwork choices
Offering some choices about how to do assignments can reduce friction over schoolwork. Doing the work isn't optional, but you can let your child decide things like: whether to work alone or near others, whether to start right after classes or after relaxing a bit, and whether to start with math or reading. Experiencing the consequences of a poor choice will help your child learn to make a better one next time.
Sunday, November 26, 2023
Trade places to promote understanding
The next time you and your child have a disagreement, try switching roles. After things calm down, ask your child to pretend to be the parent while you pretend to be the child. Then act the way your child was acting, and have your "parent" explain why you should behave differently. Try to convince your "parent" it should be OK for you do as you want. You'll have some fun and each get a better idea of the other's point of view.
Saturday, November 25, 2023
Give younger siblings 'schoolwork' too
How can you supervise your child's study sessions when a younger sibling has nothing to do and demands your attention? Try filling a "schoolwork" box with items for activities your preschooler can do independently, such as drawing or putting together puzzles. Your younger child will get in the habit of doing "schoolwork" before starting elementary school, and your older child will be able to concentrate on studying.
Friday, November 24, 2023
Team up with the teacher to tackle problems
By now, you are probably aware of any issues your child is having with school and learning. But you may not know how to address them. Your child's teacher is ready to help. Ask for a conference, in person, online or over the phone. Share your concerns and ask what the teacher has observed. Together, plan what you and the school can do to help. If necessary, meet again.
Thursday, November 23, 2023
Enjoy a holiday word game
Add a secret ingredient to your holiday feast this year: learning! Entertain your child (and the rest of the family, too) with this classic game. Pass out pencils and paper and ask people to make as many words as they can from the word "celebration." Or try a hands-on variation: Spell out a word with Scrabble tiles (or cardboard tiles you make yourself), and let your child rearrange the letters into new words.
Wednesday, November 22, 2023
Inspire creative thinking with a tall-tale challenge
Here's a way to add variety to your bedtime reading routine and learn a bit more about your child. Sometimes, instead of reading a book, challenge your child to make up the "tallest of tall tales." It can start with "Once upon a time," and friends and school activities can be part of the plot, but then your child's imagination should take over. Storytelling gives your student experience in constructing a narrative, and you'll find out more about what matters to your child.
Tuesday, November 21, 2023
Practice skills at home that help kids make friends at school
Many of the important social skills that help children make friends at school can be taught at home. Role-play being friendly, honest and a good listener with your child. When you play games together, teach your child to be a good sport. You can promote skills like cooperation and compromise by doing projects together, such as making a family dinner.
Monday, November 20, 2023
Boost inner strength to combat negative influences
Celebrities and "influencers" can affect children's goals and how they see themselves, and sometimes in negative ways. Provide a positive influence by helping your children develop their own ideas about who they are and want to be. Praise their skills, effort and ideas rather than appearance or antics. Find ways for them to explore their strengths and talents. Show your confidence in their abilities to face challenges and find solutions for themselves.
Sunday, November 19, 2023
Promote a positive attitude about math
Students' feelings about math can affect their performance in it. They are more likely to do better on a math assignment if they are calm and confident than if they are nervous or upset about it. To help your child get in the mood for math, offer a reminder that effort makes math smarts grow. Send the message that figuring out challenging problems is rewarding and fun. If your child is worried about being up to the challenge, offer reassurance: "You know more than you think you do."
Saturday, November 18, 2023
Ask your child to help with holiday plans
Participating in family rituals gives kids a sense of belonging. This holiday season, create some new traditions with your child. Together, decide what you will eat and what to do for family fun. Plan decorations your child can make. Think about ways everyone can help prepare and clean up. Your child will get a boost from seeing plans through and helping the family.
Friday, November 17, 2023
Show faith in your child's ability to improve
When kids get low grades, parents worry. But reacting to a child's promise to do better with negative comments such as, "I'll believe it when I see it," or "Prove it" won't help. Instead, offer your child encouragement on school mornings. Say "You can do this. I believe in you." You can also say that you know your child will try hard. Your support may supply the confidence your elementary schooler needs to live up to that promise!
Thursday, November 16, 2023
Avoid arguments over rules and behavior
Does your child use newly developed reasoning skills to argue with you? Keep in mind that the word 'no' sparks arguments. So, rather than saying "No, you can't watch a video," say "Yes, you can watch it when you have finished your schoolwork." It's also important not to offer choices when only one action will do. For example, don't ask if your child is ready for dinner. Say, "Dinner is ready. Please come to the table."
Wednesday, November 15, 2023
Make time for fun, relaxing reading
Helping with schoolwork isn't the only way to support your child's education. One of the best things you can do is to encourage your student to read for fun and relaxation. Print out a story your child can read in the bathtub. Cozy up under a blanket and read by flashlight. To find more time, limit passive screen activities and offer reading as a replacement. The first two weeks may be hard, but it will get easier.
Tuesday, November 14, 2023
Proven techniques can help your child master material
To succeed academically, students have to do more than memorize information. They also have to be able to understand it and recall it on demand. To boost memory skills, encourage your child to explain the material. Students think more about concepts when they put them into their own words. Help your child compare and contrast a new concept with ones already learned. Drawing a picture or symbol can also help your student remember a concept.
Monday, November 13, 2023
Have a creative sandwich celebration!
John Montagu, the 4th Earl of Sandwich (the man who gave his name to the famous lunchtime staple) was born on this day in 1718. Celebrate the day by challenging your child to invent a new sandwich. Here are some categories to try: Best tasting sandwich. Most interesting meatless sandwich. New sandwich using fruit. Unusually shaped sandwich. Most creative breadless sandwich.
Sunday, November 12, 2023
Talk about what makes a decision wise
Help your child learn to make responsible decisions by talking about the choices children make every day. Discuss what makes a choice responsible, such as how it affects others and whether it helps your child achieve a goal or meet an expectation. At other times, talk about decisions you've made and what factors you considered while making them.
Saturday, November 11, 2023
Good feelings, not bribes, motivate students
Should you offer your child incentives to do schoolwork? Don't bribe your child with promises of money or material things in advance, say teachers. Instead, respond to hard work with a reward that helps your child feel capable of doing well. Offer specific praise that says exactly what your child did right. Other appropriate rewards might include special time with you, or letting your child select a movie for the family to watch together.
Friday, November 10, 2023
Encourage appreciation by thanking your child
The most effective way to get children to do what you want is to set an example. So, to help your child learn to appreciate people and the things they do, begin by thanking your child. You can thank your child for listening, using polite manners, setting the table or working hard on schoolwork. If you haven't thanked your elementary schooler by bedtime, do it then. Your child will fall asleep feeling good, and grateful that you noticed.
Thursday, November 09, 2023
Support your child through fourth grade challenges
Fourth grade can be a challenge for elementary school students. In the early grades, teachers focus on basic skills. But in fourth grade, students must use what they know. They generally tackle bigger projects and do more writing. To support your fourth grader in this transition year, stay positive and establish a regular study time. Encourage your child to set weekly goals and break big assignments into smaller chunks. Foster friendships with classmates. Your child is developing important skills that will help in the years to come.
Wednesday, November 08, 2023
Stay up-to-date on your child's progress
When poor grades catch families by surprise, they may do and say things they regret later. Avoid such surprises by staying aware of how your child is doing. Review your student's schoolwork daily, and talk about it together. What was easy? What was challenging? Chat often with your child about how school is going and listen closely. The stories students tell can reveal a lot. If you have questions or concerns, reach out to the teacher to get answers and discuss ways to support your child's learning.
Tuesday, November 07, 2023
Celebrate accomplishments with a trophy
Did your child raise a grade recently? Was your student named Student of the Week? Here's a fun way to reward a child for a job well done. Go to a thrift store and find a used trophy. Take it to an engraver and, for a small fee, get your child's name engraved on the nameplate. Then, celebrate your child's achievements!
Monday, November 06, 2023
Boost literacy skills with fun activities at home
Students do better in school when they practice reading and writing skills at home. To boost your child's literacy skills, incorporate fun reading and writing activities throughout the day. Reading is not just for bedtime! Keep books where your child can pick them up any time. Start a family journal. Play word games. Then, set an example and let your child see you pick up a book or write a poem in your own downtime.
Sunday, November 05, 2023
Accomplishment is worth a little struggle
Families who rush to solve their children's every problem send the message that they don't think the children can manage by themselves. But when students have a chance to work problems out for themselves, it makes them feel competent and confident. That's why sometimes, it's best to let your child struggle a bit with a problem. Offer support and encouragement ("I know you can figure this out"), and then allow your child some space to try.
Saturday, November 04, 2023
Try a sweet way to encourage independence
You want your child to ask for help with schoolwork when necessary. But some kids ask for help with every problem. To encourage some independent problem-solving, put out a bowl with a few small treats, like candies or grapes. When your child asks for help, give it, but remove a treat. When the treats are gone, so is the help. Say that your child can eat anything left in the bowl when the schoolwork is complete. If your child is truly stuck, let the teacher know.
Friday, November 03, 2023
Expect your child to try hard and learn well
Expectations matter. When you make it clear that you expect your child's best effort in school, your elementary schooler is more likely to do well. If you don’t, your child is less likely to achieve. Express your confidence that your child can learn and do well. Keep in mind, however, that even the best student will make mistakes. Your child needs to know that is OK, and mistakes are also chances to learn.
Thursday, November 02, 2023
Support your child in three ways every day
From day to day, you may be helping your child with schoolwork in many different ways. But according to research, three things support school success every day. The first is making class attendance a priority. The second is reading with your child. The third is making time for productive, screen-free activities. When the school day is over, encourage your child to read, play board games, exercise or think.
Wednesday, November 01, 2023
Experiment with estimating time
Does your child dawdle over schoolwork then run out of time? Your student may be having trouble managing time. To strengthen this skill, have your child estimate how much time each task will take. Write down the estimates beside each task. Then keep track of the actual time the task takes, and have your child compare the actual time to the estimates. Your elementary schooler will learn how much time tasks really take and be better able to plan work.
eTips: Daily Engagement Messages for October 2023
Tuesday, October 31, 2023
Explain the steps for managing anger
Anger is a natural emotion. But kids need to learn how to cope with strong feelings like anger without lashing out. Explain that if your child feels anger rising, it's a good idea to step away from the person or situation if possible. Then, your child should try to figure out what is causing the feeling. When the feeling eases, your child should discuss the issue calmly, listen to the other person's point of view and compromise if necessary.
Monday, October 30, 2023
Predictable books help kids connect with reading
Children who are just learning to read benefit from books that help them along. When you choose books for your child, look for text with rhythm and rhyme, and repeated words and sentences. Predictable plots and events that follow a natural time sequence make it easier for young readers to follow the story. A plot or character your child can relate to will boost interest.
Sunday, October 29, 2023
With your help, your child can do great things
Research makes it clear: All families, no matter the adults' own level of education, can help their children succeed academically. To do it, set high (but still realistic) goals for your child. Then stress the importance of persistence, and praise effort and progress. Be firm about limits and enthusiastic about school. Show respect for your child's ideas, and share your family's values.
Saturday, October 28, 2023
Help your child check for writing quality
Before your child hands in a writing assignment, review it together. Help your child think about the answers to this checklist of questions: 1. Does my writing make sense? Are the facts correct? 2. Does each paragraph connect logically to the ones before and after? 3. Are my sentences complete? Do subjects and verbs agree? 4. Are all the words spelled correctly? Are any overused? 5. Is my final draft neat and legible?
Friday, October 27, 2023
Show your child what subtraction looks like
If your child is having difficulty with subtraction basics, try using paper clips to show what subtraction looks like. Suppose your student must subtract 8 from 16. Make a chain of 16 paper clips. Have your child count them. Then your child can count again as you remove eight clips, one at a time. Finally, have your elementary schooler count the remaining clips. Visual aids like this can help students get a clearer idea of math concepts.
Thursday, October 26, 2023
How to help when your child is frustrated
Statements like, "I hate school!" or "I'm dumb!" are often signs that a child is frustrated with schoolwork. To help your child in this situation, share a story of how you struggled with something when you were young. Explain how you worked through it. Ask guiding questions to help your student come up with strategies to try. Then encourage your child to try again. If frustration persists, let the teacher know.
Wednesday, October 25, 2023
When grades are great, focus on what's working
If your child's grades are suffering, you know what to do: Emphasize study skills and ask the teacher how to help. But when your child gets all A's? Don't make the common mistake of looking for something that still needs improvement. This can make students feel that nothing they do is good enough. Instead, discuss what your child is doing that's working. Compliment effort and look for ways to build on the subjects that interest your child.
Tuesday, October 24, 2023
Your assignment is to let your child teach you
It's may have been a long time since you had to do schoolwork. To show that you appreciate the work your student is doing, let your child give you an assignment from time to time. Even if it's easy for you, don't show it. Instead, ask your child to help you. Teaching others reinforces students' skills and makes them feel important and a little smarter.
Monday, October 23, 2023
Go online to show your child the world
The next time your child has to write a report about a state or a country, make a virtual visit together online. Have your child type the name of the place into a search engine and follow the links. Explain that news or local government websites may have more up-to-date information than older books. Have your elementary schooler look for some maps online, too. Print out some blank ones, so your child can practice labeling the features.
Sunday, October 22, 2023
Make a place for 'works in progress'
You don't want your child's unfinished projects spread all over the house for weeks. But it's important not to make the preparation and cleanup so time-consuming that your student puts off doing the project until the last minute. Find a space (the top of a bookcase, a box in the closet) where your child can store the unfinished project and supplies. Make it easy for your student to pull the project out and work on it often.
Saturday, October 21, 2023
Add a little excitement to math practice
Math skills improve with repetition. One way to make math practice fun for your child is to glue a picture onto each of 10 large index cards. Then cut the cards in half, mix them up and put them in a container. Set a timer for five minutes and give your child math problems one by one. Each correct answer earns your child a chance to draw a card. How many complete pictures can your student make before the timer runs out?
Make bedtime reading a relaxing ritual
When your child was younger, you may have read aloud at bedtime every night. But now that your child can read, should you keep up the habit? You bet. Research shows that, in addition to building literacy skills, the sound of reading aloud can help soothe children. Make daily bedtime reading with your child a relaxing time together. You'll be building cozy memories and reading skills for a lifetime.
Thursday, October 19, 2023
Answer a teacher call with an open mind
It’s hard not to imagine the worst possible scenario when the teacher contacts you about a problem with your child. But getting upset with the teacher or your child won't help. Instead, ask for more information and listen with an open mind. You'll probably find that the situation is not as bad as you assumed. When you know the specifics, it’s easier to work with the teacher to solve the problem.
Wednesday, October 18, 2023
Create a study routine that helps your child focus
Some children have more trouble concentrating than others. That can make completing schoolwork challenging. Establishing a study routine will make it easier for your child to get down to work. Set a regular time and minimize distractions. Help your child make daily to-do lists and put them in an order that works for your student, such as hardest task first. Then, let your child take a five-minute break after every 20 minutes of working.
Tuesday, October 17, 2023
Show your child how you take responsibility for your mistakes
Your mistakes can teach your child useful lessons. When they happen, demonstrate how to behave. If you forget to do something you should have done, be honest and say, "I messed up." Then talk about what you could have done differently. Make amends if you can. Your elementary schooler will learn that you take responsibility for your mistakes, and that will make it easier for your child to do the same thing.
Monday, October 16, 2023
Support your child with love, limits and respect
Children value themselves as they are valued. To build the sense of self-worth that supports school success, make it clear that you love and accept your child. At the same time, set clear rules and limits. Your child will find security in them. Then, demonstrate respect by allowing your child to have a say in decisions that affect the entire family.
Sunday, October 15, 2023
Challenge your child to an observation game
Scientists are skilled observers. Play a game with your child to develop observation skills. Have your elementary schooler describe the front of a familiar building without looking at it. Ask your child for as many details as possible, and write down what your child says. Then take a trip to look at the building and compare your child's memory to reality. Play often with different buildings, and your student will learn to notice and remember details.
Saturday, October 14, 2023
Flash cards are versatile study tools
Many kids use flash cards to study math facts. But flash cards are also a great tool for learning new reading or science vocabulary words, as well as names, events and dates in social studies. Studying the cards and saying the words or facts on them out loud helps students memorize the material. Then, when they use the cards to quiz themselves, recalling the information helps reinforce it in their minds.
Friday, October 13, 2023
Make it clear that schoolwork is worth the effort
Families know that getting their children to do their best on schoolwork in a timely way is often a tough task. To provide motivation, treat school as your child's job. Set time aside to discuss it every day. Help your child see that effort affects results. For example, ask, "Do you think this is a grade you deserve? Why or why not?" Then discuss things your child did that worked, and what your elementary schooler could do differently.
Thursday, October 12, 2023
Prepare for a productive parent-teacher conference
Whether you meet online or in person, having a conference with the teacher is an important way to help your child learn. Before your conference, talk with your child. Ask about subjects your student likes best and least and why. Ask if your child has any concerns. To make sure you and the teacher discuss these and other things that matter most, make a list. Include things the teacher should know about your child, and questions about your child's progress and how you can help.
Wednesday, October 11, 2023
Encourage confidence with a special bouquet
Encouragement helps kids become confident students. An "encouragement bouquet" is a fun way to remind your family to support one another. Put a vase in the middle of the table. With your child, attach paper cutout flowers to drinking straw stems. Then, whenever someone gives a compliment or word of encouragement to another family member, put a flower in the vase.
Tuesday, October 10, 2023
Could your child have a learning difference?
Undiagnosed learning differences prolong academic struggles. The sooner they are recognized, the sooner kids can get the help they need to thrive. Experts recommend that families take NOTE. This stands for: Notice: Be aware of signs that your child might be struggling. Observe: Watch for patterns in your child's behavior. Talk: Discuss what you see with others who know your child. Engage: Get help from a professional, such as a teacher or doctor.
Monday, October 09, 2023
Use an iceberg to inspire appreciation of others
Kids sometimes make snap decisions about teachers and classmates. To help your child look a little deeper, talk about an iceberg. A little shows above the water and a larger part is hidden beneath. Explain that people are like icebergs; only a few of their qualities are immediately visible. Encourage your child to look for people's hidden qualities. For example, someone who seems stubborn at first might stick with your child in a tough spot.
Sunday, October 08, 2023
Slow down and perk up reading time
One of the most common mistakes parents make when they read to their children is reading too fast. Reading experts advise parents to slow down and "really get into the story." Be dramatic. Use different voices for each character. Pause for effect and to let your child ask questions. Then encourage your child to do the same when reading aloud to you.
Saturday, October 07, 2023
A do-over can improve a rough morning
Everyone has those mornings. Your child is grouchy and moving slowly. You keep repeating "hurry up." Sometimes the best cure is beginning again. Stop and say, "Hey, this isn't going too well. Let's start the morning over!" Leave the room, and then come back in with a big smile and say "Good morning!" You may start laughing together, and you will both have a healthier, more productive day.
Friday, October 06, 2023
Help grandparents be reading buddies
Grandparents love listening to their grandchildren read aloud, and it helps the children improve their reading skills. But often, distance gets in the way. If in-person visits won't work, try sending grandparents a copy of a book your child is reading. Then, when they call or video chat, they will be able to share reading time with your child.
Thursday, October 05, 2023
Your child can learn a lot from tests
Students often think that learning is only necessary before a test. But a lot of learning can happen afterward, too. When children review tests and identify the kinds of mistakes they make, they can learn how not to repeat them. Mistakes are commonly careless errors, or the result of lack of preparation or poor habits. Encourage your child to correct mistakes on tests. Then, brainstorm together about ways to avoid making the same kinds of errors again.
Wednesday, October 04, 2023
Encourage the qualities that help kids achieve
What makes a child an achiever? One study found that high-achieving students tend to be self-reliant, and realistic about their strengths and weaknesses. They set challenging but realistic goals, plan carefully, and know how to find and use help. They expect obstacles and prepare for them, and they check progress regularly. Foster these qualities and watch your child achieve great things.
Tuesday, October 03, 2023
Help your child be an independent learner
It can start with a simple question. But before you know it, you've spent 20 minutes answering your child's schoolwork questions. Instead, help your elementary schooler learn how to find the answers independently. If your child asks how to spell Illinois, for example, ask, "Where could you find that answer?" Get out the dictionary or a map or globe and have your child find it. Along with the answer, your child will learn how to find more answers in the future.
Monday, October 02, 2023
Provide plenty of thinking practice
Thinking is a skill. And like other skills, it can be strengthened with practice. To provide thinking opportunities, encourage your child to identify patterns. You might ask, for example, what your student sees in a spider's web. Also help your child think about the reasons for acting in a particular way. Then, ask questions like, "What would you do differently next time?"
Sunday, October 01, 2023
What to do when your child lies to you
Children lie sometimes. But not all lies are alike. If your elementary schooler tells an obvious lie to avoid trouble, calmly say that you expect your child to tell the truth. When your child admits to lying, say you appreciate the honesty, but your child must still do (or not do) whatever was lied about. If your child lies to create excitement, explain why it's better to tell the truth. But if your child lies often and seems not to care, seek help from a school counselor or other professional.
eTips: Daily Engagement Messages for September 2023
Saturday, September 30, 2023
Simple ways you can help with writing
How can you help when your elementary schooler has a writing assignment? It's fine to help your child brainstorm about a topic, but let your child do the choosing. You can also answer a question or two about how to spell a word, and offer praise when your child uses interesting words appropriately. Then, encourage your student to find and fix errors ("I see a place in the first paragraph where a sentence should end. Can you find it?"). Finally, urge your child to write a neat final copy.
Friday, September 29, 2023
Teach techniques for calming down
Children who don't know how to calm down when they are upset can develop academic and social problems. If stress, disappointment or hurt feelings have your child worked up, teach some coping strategies: Your child could go to a bedroom to regroup. Or could share feelings with a trusted person. Tackling a chore can help your child burn off energy and feel good about completing a task. And your child can always ask you for a hug.
Thursday, September 28, 2023
Celebrate, support and reconnect at bedtime
Is your family trying to do so many things that it is hard to keep track of one another, even in the same house? Stay connected by gathering each night in a bedroom. Take turns sharing one positive thing from your day. Share a least favorite thing, too. Your family will be able to celebrate the positives together and help one another deal with any tough stuff that comes along.
Wednesday, September 27, 2023
A bookmark can help your child read smoothly
To help your child improve choppy, disconnected reading, get out a straight-edged bookmark. Placing the bookmark under a sentence will help your child learn to scan the entire line instead of reading word by word. Don't worry about the bookmark becoming a crutch. When it is no longer needed, your child will set it aside. Taking it away too soon won't help.
Tuesday, September 26, 2023
Explain that effort is the way to get smarter
One of the most important messages you can give your child is "Smart is not something you just are. Smart is something you can get." Children who are willing to work hard at a subject often learn more and better than bright students who don't apply themselves. By studying, practicing and learning from their mistakes, they get smarter, and their successes lead to more success.
Monday, September 25, 2023
Support new readers by taking turns
If your child is just starting to read, encourage practice by playing "I Read, You Read." Choose a book your child can read. You read a sentence aloud, then have your child read it back to you. You can also read all but the last word in a sentence and have your child supply the missing word. As your child's reading skills improve, try reading one page and having your student read the next.
Sunday, September 24, 2023
Connect school to your child's interests
To help your child understand the value of education, connect it to things your student is interested in. Ask your child to tell you about favorite activities, then ask, "How can school help?" Together, brainstorm some answers. For example, if your child says, "I like to watch cartoons," the answer might be, "School can help me learn how to draw and how animation is done."
Saturday, September 23, 2023
Feed your child's brain every morning
Students who eat breakfast have more energy, work faster, concentrate better and score higher on tests than those who don't. To make sure your child gets a healthy breakfast, keep easy-to-make items on hand, such as microwavable oatmeal and hard-boiled eggs. Serve "fast fruits," like apples and bananas. If your child doesn't like breakfast food, try non-traditional items, such as peanut butter sandwiches or soup.
Friday, September 22, 2023
Men, be a reading role model
Reading tests often show that boys lag behind girls in reading. One reason may be that moms do more reading aloud and elementary school teachers are often women. So boys may associate reading with women and school. Fathers, uncles and grandfathers can encourage boys to read by showing them that books are for men, too. Give reading with your children as much time as you do sports or other activities.
Thursday, September 21, 2023
When writing is fun, it doesn't seem like work
Strong writing takes practice. Here are some ways to get your child writing more without making it seem like work: Ask your child to write funny captions for family photos. You could also ask for a list of things your child would like as birthday gifts, or the school rules your student would make. Suggest that your child write to a friend or relative. Or stimulate creative thinking by asking your child to write a short story about spending 100 dollars.
Wednesday, September 20, 2023
Reinforce rules that improve learning for all
Teachers can't teach if they are busy managing student misbehavior. Support your child's teacher by reinforcing school rules at home: Teach your child to show respect for people and property. Do not tolerate inappropriate language. Then, discuss the importance of following directions, and explain that your child should avoid behaviors that distract the class from learning.
Tuesday, September 19, 2023
When is it time to contact the teacher?
Your child is complaining about schoolwork again. Should you let the teacher know? Contact the teacher if your child regularly finds assignments too easy or too hard, or won't do them even when you've tried to provide motivation. Also let the teacher know if your child doesn't understand the instructions, even with your help. Discuss actions to take to help your child, and follow up to determine if they are working.
Monday, September 18, 2023
Motivate your child with a puzzle
If your child likes puzzles, use them as motivators! When your child is not around, make a puzzle by pasting a picture from a magazine onto cardboard and cutting it into pieces. Then, every time your child reads a book, or does schoolwork or a chore without being nagged, offer a puzzle piece. Each day will bring your child closer to solving the puzzle and seeing the picture.
Sunday, September 17, 2023
Put your coin jar to use building math skills
Your jar of spare change is a great tool for helping your child learn math. Coins are useful for teaching skills such as sorting, for example. Have your child put all like coins in piles, or make piles that each equal a dollar. Provide estimation practice by asking your child to estimate how many coins there are. Use coins for word problems, too. If your child wants to buy a toy for $4.95, is there enough in the jar? If so, how much is left? If not, how much more is needed?
Saturday, September 16, 2023
Fit supporting the school into your schedule
How can you get involved and support students and the school if you work during school hours? There are so many ways to make a difference. For example, you can stay in touch with your child’s teacher and respond to school surveys. You may be able to offer career expertise or help translate for non-English speaking parents. Your participation helps in important ways and shows your child that education is a priority.
Friday, September 15, 2023
Discover ways to support science learning
Even if your child doesn't grow up to be a scientist, some knowledge of science will be necessary to understand a rapidly changing world. And even if you don't know much about science, you can help. Ask your child's teacher for suggestions for science activities you can do together at home. Find out about other ways to support science education, too, such as working with other families to gain local business support for the school's science program.
Thursday, September 14, 2023
Start school day mornings on the right foot
A bad start on a school day morning can interfere with your child's learning. To set your elementary schooler up for a productive day, post a morning checklist so your child knows how to get ready without being told. Your student can use any extra morning time to read, study or play relaxed games. Or you can talk together about something about school that your child likes: the teacher, the book the class is reading, etc.
Wednesday, September 13, 2023
Practice asking six questions together
Children learn by asking questions. To teach your child to ask the kinds of questions that help children learn, choose an object in your home: a pair of jeans, for example. Explore this object with your child by asking questions that start with Who, What, Where, When, Why and How. (Who invented blue jeans? Where were they first made? When can you wear them?) Then, help your child research the answers.
Tuesday, September 12, 2023
Use routines to establish helpful learning habits
You probably have lots of routines that make your life easier. Your child needs your help developing some, too. Here are three school success routines to help your child establish: 1. Have your child put everything needed for school the next day in a designated place in the evening to avoid a morning scramble. 2. Have your child work on assignments at the same time of day. 3. Read together for 20 minutes every day.
Monday, September 11, 2023
Finish the day on a positive note
A relaxing bedtime routine can help your child feel safe and secure in this sometimes uncertain world. Tuck your child in every night. This is an ideal time for you to share positive thoughts about your child. Your child can also share hopes and dreams with you. You can sing a bedtime song, or read a story aloud. Make this time a special time for you both.
Sunday, September 10, 2023
Provide some responsibility practice
Responsibility can be learned. And the best way to teach it to children is to give them some responsibilities. Elementary school students are old enough to be responsible for getting up on time, completing assignments and a chore or two, treating others with respect and going to bed on time. Let your child know what you expect, and what the consequences will be for ignoring responsibilities.
Saturday, September 09, 2023
Encouragement helps turn classmates into friends
When it comes to making friends at school, attitude makes a difference. Classmates like to be friends with children who accept them and build them up. Help your elementary schooler brainstorm a list of supportive statements, such as "Good answer!" "Nice try!" or "Great idea!" Use them at home. The more you use them with your child, the more likely your student will be to use them with classmates.
Friday, September 08, 2023
Give your child a checklist to encourage quality work
Establishing positive study habits will help your child get the most out of schoolwork. To encourage your child's best effort, offer this checklist. Before turning anything in, have your elementary schooler ask: Did I follow the directions? Is my work neat so the teacher can read it? Have I checked my spelling? Did I complete every step of each math problem? Have I shown and double-checked my work?
Thursday, September 07, 2023
Boost your child's ability to adapt and thrive
If school situations or rules have your child unsettled, boosting resilience will help. Start by listening to your student's concerns; your child may be worried about something different than you think. Then, point out your elementary schooler's strengths, and offer reminders of other challenges your child has handled successfully. As you go about your own life, model problem-solving by thinking out loud when you are deciding how to handle a situation.
Wednesday, September 06, 2023
Create a bright poster to keep goals in sight
Benjamin Franklin observed that people with clear goals seemed to be happier. He carried a list of his goals wherever he went. To encourage your child to follow Franklin's example, get some poster board and markers. Help your child develop two or three learning goals, then make a poster that spells them out. Hang the poster in a prominent place where your child will see it every day. When your child achieves a goal, celebrate together…and set some new goals.
Tuesday, September 05, 2023
Consider giving your child a seat at the conference table
Parent-teacher conferences are an important way to get specific information about how your child is doing in school. Sometimes, these meetings may include your child, too. Taking part can actually help students become more accountable for their own learning. Having everyone participate can also build a stronger bond between home and school. You, your child and the teacher will gain a shared understanding of what's expected, so you can work together effectively.
Monday, September 04, 2023
Study time can still be social
Children need a quiet place to study. But being sent to a bedroom to do schoolwork may feel like a punishment to your child. You don't want your student to rush through assignments just to be around people again. In that case, try allowing your child to do schoolwork at the kitchen table or in a room with others around. Just make sure the TV is off and there are no major distractions.
Sunday, September 03, 2023
Review habits that help kids stay well
Student health and safety are a top priority for schools and families. Good nutrition, adequate rest and medical care help prevent illness, but one of the simplest ways you can keep your child healthy and learning is to teach effective hygiene. Make sure your child knows to wash hands frequently with soap, and to use hand sanitizer if soap isn't available. Make it clear that your child shouldn't share food, drinks, or clothing with other students. Then, if your child does get sick, follow school protocols for returning to schoo
Saturday, September 02, 2023
The 'power of one' makes a difference at school
You may not have time to volunteer at school regularly. But that doesn't mean you can't make a difference. All you need to do is look for one task you can do to help this year. It could be working on a fundraiser, chaperoning a field trip or recruiting volunteers for a project. Whatever it is, if you do one thing and every other parent does one thing, the school will have more than enough volunteers.
Friday, September 01, 2023
Learn how to contact key school personnel
Family-school communication is more important than ever. Families need to know who they can turn to with questions or concerns. Do you know the name of the school principal? Your child's counselor? The nurse? If not, call the office or look on the website to find out who they are and how to contact them. Introduce yourself when you are at school. Connecting with key people at school will make your child's education journey go more smoothly.
eTips: Daily Engagement Messages for August 2023
Thursday, August 31, 2023
Help your child practice reading to learn
Reading nonfiction is an important way students learn. A strong ability to remember what they read is essential. To strengthen this ability, encourage your elementary schooler to preview the text by reading the main headings and scanning the pictures. Next, your child should read the introduction, summary and any questions that follow the passage. Finally, have your student read the chapter itself in short sections, making sure to understand each section before moving on.
Wednesday, August 30, 2023
Develop your child's inner motivation
Students who are motivated only by the desire to get a good grade rarely do more than the minimum they need to earn it. But students who are motivated from within are more likely to stick with a task and retain what they've learned. At the start of project or reading assignment, discuss what your child wants to learn from it. Along the way, ask your child to share new knowledge and celebrate progress.
Tuesday, August 29, 2023
Name-calling is no joke
Children have called each other names for centuries. But it's wrong to think that there's nothing families or schools can or should do about it. Persistent name-calling, and name-calling with an intent to hurt, are forms of bullying. Teach your child that this behavior is hurtful. Don't accept "I was just joking," as an excuse. Voice your disapproval when you hear your child or anyone else putting another person down.
Monday, August 28, 2023
Start routines to make school mornings smoother
Getting back into school mode after a long summer break can be a challenge for some children. To help your child make the transition, establish some daily routines. Explain the tasks you want your child to do and post a schedule so your child knows what to do when. To further boost independence, use silent signals sometimes, such as a gentle touch on your student's shoulder to indicate that it's time to calm down or pay attention.
Sunday, August 27, 2023
Reinforce the need for timeliness at school
Families juggle lots of commitments, and it isn't easy. But for success in school, it's important for your child to be in every class on time and ready to learn. Children who are on time are more inclined to take school seriously. On the other hand, allowing children to be late sends the message that school isn't that important and that rules can be broken. Reinforce the need for timeliness with your elementary schooler. Show how you plan ahead to be punctual, and make it clear that you expect your child to do the same.
Saturday, August 26, 2023
Don't get stranded without a book
You have a long wait for an appointment, or a short car ride turns into a long standstill because of a flat tire. Whether you and your child are stuck for a few minutes or stranded for an hour, make the most of that time by reading. Keep a book or magazine stashed in the car or in a bag you take with you. It will provide a pleasant, productive way for you and your child to pass time during unexpected waits.
Friday, August 25, 2023
Provide opportunities to follow directions
Schoolwork and tests both require students to follow directions. To provide valuable practice, give your elementary schooler a detailed set of instructions for doing a task. (Baking a cake or making pizza from scratch is perfect.) Ask your child to read them out loud and circle the actions that are called for. Supervise as your child completes the task, then reread the directions together. Did your student follow them to the letter? If not, ask, "Can you figure out where you went wrong?"
Thursday, August 24, 2023
Here's an easy formula for helping with math
You can help your elementary schooler learn math even if you don't remember any of the math you took in school. Ask your child questions about math work, such as "How did you arrive at that answer?" or "Look at this page of problems. Do you see a pattern?" It's also helpful to involve your child in practical math at home, such as measuring. Then, encourage regular practice by establishing a daily routine that includes time for math.
Wednesday, August 23, 2023
Encourage a healthy body image
Were you critical of your looks when you were a child? Many kids feel uncomfortable about their physical appearance. To improve a poor body image, offer compliments. Even if you don't like an outfit or a haircut, there is probably something about your child's appearance you love. Say so. And don't make jokes about appearance or weight. Your child won't find them funny, and these jokes can be harmful.
Tuesday, August 22, 2023
Positive learning habits help kids prepare for success
Start the new school year off right by encouraging positive habits your elementary schooler can rely on all year long. Help your child set learning goals, for example. Then regularly ask, "What will you do today to help you reach your goal?" Learning to think ahead will also help your child. You might say, "I know you plan to write your report next weekend. But what if the weather is nice and you want to play outside? What do you think about writing some of it today?"
Monday, August 21, 2023
To support success, offer encouragement, not pressure
Learning is full of challenges and obstacles. Encouragement from families, rather than pressure, helps children face them. If your child feels stressed in the coming year, show that you care. Be available to listen. Respect your child's feelings, and explain that mistakes are just learning opportunities. Then help your child develop positive study habits. When studying is routine, it's easier to deal with the pressures of increasing workloads.
Sunday, August 20, 2023
Make it easy for your child to be honest
You want your child to avoid stretching the truth and cheating in school. To encourage honesty, catch your child being honest and offer praise for telling the truth. Even if you don't like what you hear, avoid overreacting when your child is being honest with you. Say, "I appreciate your honesty." It's also important to give your child plenty of chances to be honest. If you doubt what your child is saying, say, "I'm having a hard time believing you right now," and allow your elementary schooler to change the answer.
Saturday, August 19, 2023
Add a creative element to reading
Combining reading and creative activities develops your elementary schooler's imagination and keeps the reading interesting. Encourage your child to draw pictures of characters or scenes from a favorite story. You can also ask your child to make up songs about stories and books. For example, ask, "What might the three little pigs sing when the wolf is coming? How would the music sound?"
Friday, August 18, 2023
Three key school supplies don't come from a store
It's school supply season! But three key things your child needs for school success can't be bought: concentration, organization and motivation. To help your child acquire them, set a regular study time and create a place to read or work that is as distraction-free as possible. Teach your child to use calendars and checklists to keep track of responsibilities. Most importantly, talk together each day about school and the new skills and concepts your child is learning.
Thursday, August 17, 2023
Wait out your child's stormy mood
A child's moods can be like weather at the beach. You expect a sunny day, but storm clouds appear out of nowhere. The best response is the same in both cases: Take cover. Your child needs to learn to express feelings in appropriate ways. So don't let an upset child engage you in an argument (one of you is likely to get your feelings hurt). Instead, say "We will talk about it later, when we are both calm."
Wednesday, August 16, 2023
Hunt for letters in the kitchen
Young children often want to spend time in the kitchen when family members are cooking. Here's a game that will sharpen your child's observation skills and help with reading readiness, all while you fix a meal. Ask your child to find five A's, F's or M's. Your child can look on soup cans, the cat food or even the soap. Once finding letters becomes easy, move on to letter combinations or whole words.
Tuesday, August 15, 2023
Help your child set personal learning goals
Now is the perfect time to sit down with your child and agree on some broad goals for the new school year. Does your elementary schooler need to beef up math skills? What new things does your child want to learn? To provide motivation, make a goal scorecard: Have your child list on a chart the steps to take each marking period to accomplish the goal. You can add some small rewards your child will earn for completing each objective.
Monday, August 14, 2023
Review the rules that keep your child safe on the school bus
Make sure your elementary schooler knows the bus safety rules of the road. Your child should walk on the left side of the road when going to the bus stop and remain seated and quiet on the bus. Remind your child to avoid touching the doors and windows, and to keep hands and head inside the bus. Say that you expect your chlid to follow the bus driver's instructions and to avoid actions that could distract the driver.
Sunday, August 13, 2023
Share a funny tidbit to boost interest in reading
If your child has access to books and other reading materials and still shows no interest in reading, show what fun your student is missing. Read some children's books your child might enjoy to yourself. Then, share a few teasers (interesting or funny tidbits from the books). You may find your child reaching for the books to give them a try! Keep it up by reading and discussing books on a wide range of subjects that might interest your child.
Saturday, August 12, 2023
It's time to get organized for learning
Organization makes it easier for students to do their best work. Help your child prepare for the new school year by setting up a study space with as few distractions as possible. Have your child keep supplies in a basket or bin nearby. Then, give your child some different colored folders and assign a color for each subject. Then, your elementary schooler can file handouts and schoolwork by subject and find things when it's time to study.
Friday, August 11, 2023
Shine a light on time zones
Conduct a time-zone demonstration to help your child understand why people in other parts of the world may be eating dinner when your family is just waking up. Here's how: Get a globe (or a ball) and have your child put a sticky note on your location. Turn off the lights and shine a flashlight on the globe. Explain that the sun lights only part of the ball at one time. As the Earth turns, sunlight hits different parts of the surface.
Thursday, August 10, 2023
Set expectations that motivate success
Children care how their families view them, and they usually live up to expectations. So set expectations that will motivate your child's best efforts. As you prepare for the coming school year, make a list of high (but realistic) expectations for your child, such as working hard, turning in schoolwork on time, etc. Discuss it together. Once school starts, be consistent. Help your child take pride in progress and express your belief that your child will be successful in school.
Wednesday, August 09, 2023
Teach the basic rules of self-protection
Parents can't always be with their children, so they must teach them to protect themselves. Make sure your child can provide a full name, address and phone number, and knows whom it is safe to share this information with. Teach your child how to call 9-1-1 in an emergency, and what an emergency is. Review the safest routes to and from school, the bus stop and other frequently visited places. And explain that it's important to tell you if something someone does or says makes your child feel uneasy.
Tuesday, August 08, 2023
Share a performance secret with your child
Athletes know that talking to themselves can help them perform better. It's true for students, too. Saying things out loud can help the brain tune out distractions. So if your child is doing a worksheet, for example, suggest reading the instructions out loud to boost concentration. When facing a challenge, your child can build self-confidence by saying, "I am a hard worker, and I am going to get this task done."
Monday, August 07, 2023
Don't throw away those grocery store ads
Grocery store ads are great for helping your child practice math skills. Look through the ads together and have your child cut out pictures of foods along with their prices. Now challenge your elementary schooler to create and solve word problems using the pictures. "Joey bought one pound of bananas for 50 cents. How much would two pounds of bananas cost?"
Sunday, August 06, 2023
It takes skills to plan a family trip
Here's a fun activity that combines map skills, research and math. Have your child pick a nearby attraction that would be fun to visit. Together, plan a pretend family trip. How would you get there? Help your child find maps and transportation schedules, and plot a route. How long would it take? What should the trip budget be? If possible, carry out the plan. Your child will be able to see whether the research was correct.
Saturday, August 05, 2023
Plan a special reading day
Every now and then, declare a Reading Day. Set the whole day aside for reading book after book. If your child is young, you can spend most of the day reading favorite books aloud (let your child choose what to read). If your child is older, Reading Day can be a day when each family member curls up with a favorite book and then shares the interesting parts during mealtimes.
Friday, August 04, 2023
What's special about your family?
All families are unique. That means your child has special things to be proud of. Find out what matters to your family. Give family members sheets of paper on which you've written: I'm proud that my family has a tradition of…; I'm proud that my family plans to…; I'm proud that my family works together to…; I'm proud that my family enjoys…. Have everyone fill in the blanks, then share the answers.
Thursday, August 03, 2023
Record an audiobook with your child
Listening to audiobooks and reading along can help develop your child's reading fluency. And it's more fun if you make your own audiobooks together. Simply record yourself as you read a story to your child. Slow down and pronounce words carefully. Act out the character's voices. At the end of each page, have your child ring a bell. Later, when your elementary schooler listens and reads along, the bell will be the cue to turn the page.
Wednesday, August 02, 2023
Teach your child the best way to make friends
The best way for a child to make friends is to look for other kids who are seeking friendships, too. Encourage your child to look for signs of openness, such as smiling or making room for someone to sit down. Suggest that your child ask questions to show signs of interest. "I always see you with that case. What instrument do you play?" Then, remind your child to take it slow. New friendships need time and space to grow.
Tuesday, August 01, 2023
Check for vision problems before school resumes
If your child's eyes aren't functioning properly, learning may suffer. Eye doctors encourage examinations for children who often lose their place while reading, avoid up-close work, or hold reading materials closer than normal. An exam is also warranted if your child complains of headaches, head-tilts while reading to use one eye only, or reverses letters and words when reading and writing.
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Monday, July 31, 2023
What to say when the news is scary
Scary things happen in the world, but families can help children process frightening news. Monitor what your child sees and hears on the news. If your elementary schooler is frightened, find out what your child already knows. Kids' fears may be very different from the truth. Explain that you and other adults will do all you can to keep your child safe, and point out the people who help in scary situations. By listening, you show your child that you are a safe person to talk to about anything.
Sunday, July 30, 2023
Get set before giving your child a pet
Caring for a pet can build children's sense of responsibility, but only if they are capable of following through. Before agreeing to your child's request for a pet, talk about the responsibility involved. Discuss the specific tasks your child will be responsible for together. If you think your child is ready to carry them out, make it easier by linking the tasks to daily events in your elementary schooler's life. "The cat gets fed before you eat breakfast."
Saturday, July 29, 2023
Help your child learn from disappointment
You can't protect your child from disappointments. But you can teach how to cope with them, and even grow from them. First, ask how your child is feeling, and acknowledge the feelings. Then ask questions about what happened, so your child can understand the experience. Don't try to "fix things" for your elementary schooler. Instead, help your child explore options by asking "what if?" questions.
Friday, July 28, 2023
Establish a school-year sleep routine now
Getting your child into an effective sleep routine now will make school day mornings easier in the fall. Set a bedtime, and stick to it every night. Children who stay up later on weekends have more trouble resetting their internal clock on Mondays. Be sure to build in some quiet time before bed, when your child can read. And don't negotiate. If bedtime is 8:45, don't give in to pleas of "five more minutes."
Thursday, July 27, 2023
Try Grandma's rule for good behavior
It is important to establish clear guidelines for your child's behavior and to enforce consequences consistently. Ideally, consequences should be more positive than negative. Remember Grandma's rule: "When you have done what you are supposed to do, then you may do what you want to do." Always phrase it positively: "You can play a game when you finish your chores."
Wednesday, July 26, 2023
Explore natural wonders on a micro-hike
Build your child's observation skills by taking a micro-hike together. Have your child lay a three- to five-foot piece of string on the ground outdoors. Provide a magnifying glass, and say, "Imagine you are the size of an ant." Then have your child follow the string trail and observe tiny details. Ask questions like: What kind of world are you traveling through? Who are your nearest neighbors? Are they friendly?
Tuesday, July 25, 2023
Build a word bridge to better reading
Word bridges link letters and develop reading fluency. Play this game with your child: Write the letters of a word, such as FRAME, vertically. A few spaces to the right, write the letters in reverse order (EMARF) vertically, so the two columns of letters line up. Now, challenge your child to fill in the spaces to make words. For example, putting an R and an E between the F and E makes FREE. Keep a dictionary handy for ideas.
Monday, July 24, 2023
Story starters spark creative thinking
The words "I'm bored!" often mean that whining, fighting and trouble are on the way. To spark your child's creativity and promote thinking, make a list of story starters. For example, "When I opened the door, I got the surprise of my life," or, "Once there lived a child whose life would have been perfect except for one thing." Then give a starter and have your child use it to write a story or play or paint a picture.
Sunday, July 23, 2023
Recycle worksheets and revive your child's skills
Keep school skills sharp this summer by pulling out some of your child's papers or worksheets from the recent school year. Math, science and reading papers are especially useful. Once a week, have your child redo some of the work. This summer school time will help reinforce the material in your child's mind, and you'll have some time to do other things while your student works.
Saturday, July 22, 2023
Help your child understand more about fairness
Is "No fair!" your child's favorite phrase? Use it to talk about what fairness involves. For example, fair doesn't always mean equal. An older child may have more freedom. A younger one might have fewer responsibilities. Sometimes fairness involves compromise, so look for times when you can meet your child halfway. Ask, "What do you think would make it fair?" and use any of your child's ideas that are realistic.
Friday, July 21, 2023
Use familiar items to make geography relevant
Where do your elementary schooler's blue jeans come from? How about the foods on the breakfast table? Help your child think about geography by mapping the products your family uses. Display a map of the country or the world. Then have your child write the name of each item on a sticky note and use it to mark the place on the map that the item came from. Together, read more about those places and the people who live there.
Thursday, July 20, 2023
Explore possibilities with family puppets
Boost creativity and communication by making family puppets with your child. First, make copies of photos of your family members. Then cut out the heads and glue them to craft sticks. Help your child cut out pictures of clothes from catalogs or magazines and attach them to the sticks. Your family can use the puppets to act out how you have dealt with a problem or conflict. Then, see if you can act out a better approach.
Wednesday, July 19, 2023
Add to math skills with a coin game
Play this simple game to boost your child's addition skills and teach a little about money. Hide several coins under your hand on a table. Tell your child how many coins you are hiding and what they add up to. Then ask your elementary schooler to guess which coins you have. Leave a selection of additional coins on the table so your child can try different combinations to come up with the right answer.
Tuesday, July 18, 2023
Make rules work for you and your child
Things go much more smoothly at home and everywhere else when children know the rules. To make your rules effective, concentrate on what you want your child to do, not what you don't want to see. Offer your child choices you can live with. Be sure your elementary schooler understands your expectations, and enforce limits consistently. Then, when you see positive behavior from your child, praise it.
Monday, July 17, 2023
Let reading take you to unusual places
Doing the same things the same way every day can get dull. But it is important to read every day with your child. To keep it interesting, find unusual places to read. You could read in the bathroom or under a tree. Or create a secret reading hideaway by tossing a sheet over a clothesline. Consider having a "most unusual place to read" contest, and take pictures of family members in their creative spots.
Sunday, July 16, 2023
Show your child what it takes to run a family
Parents often take care of family responsibilities that their children aren't aware of. Help your child see what it takes to run your household by making a family responsibility chart. Include the name of the person responsible for each chore, including yourself. As a family, discuss ways to improve and share these job assignments. Contributing will put your child on the path to capable, responsible adulthood.
Saturday, July 15, 2023
Instill healthy habits now to be ready for fall
The summer is the perfect time to establish some healthy habits that support school success. Clean hands are important for staying healthy, so together, practice really thorough hand washing. If your elementary schooler tends to skip breakfast, reestablish the habit by letting your child experiment with unusual foods. Use summer's longer days to encourage active outdoor activities (wearing plenty of sunscreen!), then stick to a regular bedtime.
Friday, July 14, 2023
One wet penny buys a lot of science fun
How many drops of water will fit on a penny without running off? Challenge your elementary schooler to find out. First, ask your child to make a prediction. Then give your child a penny, a glass of water and an eyedropper (a straw will work if you don't have an eyedropper). If your student works slowly it's possible to get as many as 24 drops on the penny. Repeat the experiment. Does your child get the same number?
Thursday, July 13, 2023
Recognize the patterns that are all around
Pattern recognition is an important math skill, and developing it can be fun for your whole family. Look around your home for patterns. Is there one in the floor? The bedspread? Then take a walk with your child to look for patterns in nature. Look at the way leaves are arranged. Examine petals on flowers. Count spots on butterfly wings. How many patterns can your family create with rocks, twigs and other natural objects?
Wednesday, July 12, 2023
Count on math to make car trips fun
Here's a fun game that will reinforce your child's grasp of addition and make any car ride fun. Point out an approaching car and have everyone guess how many passengers will be inside. A correct guess earns as many points as there are passengers. Put your child in charge of score-keeping. The player with the most points at the end of the ride wins.
Tuesday, July 11, 2023
Help your child avoid tantrum triggers
When children don't have the skills to cope with feelings or situations, they often resort to toddler-style outbursts. Try to figure out what triggers your elementary schooler's tantrums. Where possible, help your child avoid those situations. And when you see a tantrum coming, help your child practice some calming techniques, like deep breathing while counting to 10, or saying "I can work through this."
Monday, July 10, 2023
Homemade puzzles give your child the big picture
When children put puzzles together, they build skills that are also useful in math and reading. Puzzles teach logic, pattern recognition and spatial thinking. They also develop children's ability to envision a complete unit when looking at a fragment. To make puzzles at home with your child, cut out pictures from magazines or advertisements. Glue them onto cardboard and cut the pictures into puzzle pieces. Then mix them up and let your child get puzzling!
Sunday, July 09, 2023
Your time is a priceless gift
Here's an idea for a gift for your child that's worth a million bucks, but that doesn't cost a dime. All you have to do is ask your child: "What do you want me to give you that money can't buy?" Children usually have simple requests, like "Read to me more," or "Teach me how to…." Most of their responses simply mean, "Pay more attention to me."
Saturday, July 08, 2023
Let your child see you learning
To motivate your child's desire to learn, be a learner yourself. Show your elementary schooler that you enjoy reading. Watch educational programs. Tackle projects that involve learning new skills. Demonstrate curiosity, then talk about your new ideas or discoveries with your child.
Friday, July 07, 2023
Spanking children is never appropriate
The purpose of discipline is to teach. In studies, children whose parents didn't use physical punishment scored higher on tests of their ability to learn than kids who were spanked. The non-spanking parents talked with their children more. When your child does something wrong, talk about what it was. Explain why it was wrong and what your child should do differently in the future.
Thursday, July 06, 2023
A comparison game teaches logical thinking
You can't force your child to think logically, but you can teach logical thinking. Here's a game to try with your child. Name two objects. For example, a red sock and a blue sock. Ask your child how they are alike and how they are different. If that's too easy, challenge your student by picking items that don't have much in common, such as a banana and a barbell. (Both start with B. Both can make you strong.)
Wednesday, July 05, 2023
Support your child through stressful times
Constant stress takes a toll on family life and on children. To reduce the effects of stress on your child, start the day with pleasant words and calm routines. Make a point of slowing down when you interact together. Give your child chances to solve problems independently. And when you must correct behavior, make it clear that you love your child, no matter what.
Tuesday, July 04, 2023
Put on a family play
If you've been relying heavily on screen entertainment lately, take a night off and produce the entertainment yourselves. You can find free play scripts for children online. Choose one that your child will enjoy, and print several copies. Then gather family members to read the play aloud together. Or, if your children are older, they can put on the play while the adults act as the audience.
Monday, July 03, 2023
Help your child learn to be a good sport
Whether your child participates in organized sports or just plays casually, reinforce one of sports' most important lessons: what it means to be a good sport. Remind your child that fun should come first. If everyone is having fun, winning and losing don't seem so important. When you play games together, discourage gloating or pouting, and say something positive after every game, no matter who wins or loses.
Sunday, July 02, 2023
Choose books that develop character
Your elementary schooler is learning about friendship, compassion, honesty, responsibility, courage and more. To reinforce the lessons, read books together which address these values. Some to try: Say Something by Peter H. Reynolds (ages 4 to 8). The Boy and the Whale by Mordicai Gerstein (6-10). Full of Beans by Jennifer L. Holm (9-12).
Saturday, July 01, 2023
Math riddles are a fun challenge
Can you think of a way to write a math problem whose answer is 3 by using only the number 2? Here's one way: (2 + 2 + 2) ÷ 2 = 3. Challenge your child to think of other math problems like this. It's a good way to use the last five minutes of a math study session, or to pass any time you spend together waiting for something else to happen.